Looking for advice on contacting a guy or waiting

Hello, so I met this guy online about 2 months ago. I’m 28 and he’s 30. We had a phone conversation within the first evening and instantly agreed to go on a date. The date was so fun and the connection was there so we continued to see each other…about a date a week. The planning was coming from his side because his work was demanding, but in between we chatted on the phone etc.

The last time we saw each other was about a week and a half ago. We were intimate and he even kept my under garments. Again, a great night. The next day I didn’t hear from him for a few days and when I reached out we started chatting again. Everything was fine but then I blatantly asked him “are we ever going to see each other again etc”. His response was that he wasn’t feeling well and he’s overloaded to the max with work. My response was feel better and left it at that. He continued to contact me after that and the next few days. I liked that, but I’m also at a point where it’s like if we’re not meeting in person what’s the point.

I really like him, but can’t exactly gauge how he feels about me or proceeding in the relationship and I don’t want to keep initiating that we see each other more. I’m sure he knows that’s how I feel. The last time he contact me was 2 nights ago …he sent a video of him out with a friend. I didn’t respond because it seemed like he wasn’t too busy to do that….

Not sure if I should just continue not contacting this person, see if he reaches out to feel better or take action myself. There were also a few times that he didn’t respond to me and I still reached out and went from there.



Submitted September 14, 2021 at 12:10AM

Hello, so I met this guy online about 2 months ago. I’m 28 and he’s 30. We had a phone conversation within the first evening and instantly agreed to go on a date. The date was so fun and the connection was there so we continued to see each other…about a date a week. The planning was coming from his side because his work was demanding, but in between we chatted on the phone etc.The last time we saw each other was about a week and a half ago. We were intimate and he even kept my under garments. Again, a great night. The next day I didn’t hear from him for a few days and when I reached out we started chatting again. Everything was fine but then I blatantly asked him “are we ever going to see each other again etc”. His response was that he wasn’t feeling well and he’s overloaded to the max with work. My response was feel better and left it at that. He continued to contact me after that and the next few days. I liked that, but I’m also at a point where it’s like if we’re not meeting in person what’s the point.I really like him, but can’t exactly gauge how he feels about me or proceeding in the relationship and I don’t want to keep initiating that we see each other more. I’m sure he knows that’s how I feel. The last time he contact me was 2 nights ago …he sent a video of him out with a friend. I didn’t respond because it seemed like he wasn’t too busy to do that….Not sure if I should just continue not contacting this person, see if he reaches out to feel better or take action myself. There were also a few times that he didn’t respond to me and I still reached out and went from there.
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