How to have lesbian sex for the first time? Under pressure?

Hello, probably a strange question but I am freaking out. I'm an 18-year-old college freshman and I met this girl through a mutual friend. All three of us have been hanging out almost every day since school started 4 weeks ago and we have a lot of fun. Lately, though, our mutual friend (a gay man) has been making jokes about me and this girl having sex. I've identified as a lesbian for a year and have had 2 girlfriends but I've never gone that far with either of them since they were both online and I only met them in person a few times. A week ago my friend was pressuring me into having sex with the girl and the girl said she would but I said I felt uncomfortable and wasn't willing to. So my friend (the gay man) was like "ok you have a week to make your decision, either yes you want to have sex with her or no." And apparently, I can't change my mind about the decision later. Well, a week went by and I still haven't made my decision. Like, I want to experience what sex is like since I'm already 18 and still a virgin but at the same time I have immense anxiety about it. Like so much so that I feel sick. Like I've only known this girl for a month and we're not even dating or anything, just friends. I also don't know how to have sex, like I get the gist of it but I've never actually done it and I feel like it would be really awkward. I just don't know how to react in this situation since I want to experience it but I also am scared. I like the girl but I feel like our mutual friend is putting a lot of pressure on me to speed up the relationship when I'm not ready. How do you have sex with another girl? Like what is the best way? Do I have to shave?? I'm sorry this is so long but thank you if anyone is willing to help.



Submitted September 19, 2021 at 12:31AM

Hello, probably a strange question but I am freaking out. I'm an 18-year-old college freshman and I met this girl through a mutual friend. All three of us have been hanging out almost every day since school started 4 weeks ago and we have a lot of fun. Lately, though, our mutual friend (a gay man) has been making jokes about me and this girl having sex. I've identified as a lesbian for a year and have had 2 girlfriends but I've never gone that far with either of them since they were both online and I only met them in person a few times. A week ago my friend was pressuring me into having sex with the girl and the girl said she would but I said I felt uncomfortable and wasn't willing to. So my friend (the gay man) was like "ok you have a week to make your decision, either yes you want to have sex with her or no." And apparently, I can't change my mind about the decision later. Well, a week went by and I still haven't made my decision. Like, I want to experience what sex is like since I'm already 18 and still a virgin but at the same time I have immense anxiety about it. Like so much so that I feel sick. Like I've only known this girl for a month and we're not even dating or anything, just friends. I also don't know how to have sex, like I get the gist of it but I've never actually done it and I feel like it would be really awkward. I just don't know how to react in this situation since I want to experience it but I also am scared. I like the girl but I feel like our mutual friend is putting a lot of pressure on me to speed up the relationship when I'm not ready. How do you have sex with another girl? Like what is the best way? Do I have to shave?? I'm sorry this is so long but thank you if anyone is willing to help.
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