Girlfriend's sex drive is too low, and I think it's because I always get her to orgasm.

Alright, I get how this sounds. This is not a humble brag - it's something I'm really worrying about. I'm a 22 year old guy, and my girl is also 22. We have great sex, but my sex drive is far higher than her's. Ideally and realistically, I would like to have sex 1-2 times a day. However, we only have sex maybe 3-4 times a week, and it's GREAT. We are present, connected, and in the zone when we're doing it, and we finish together almost every time. But I've noticed that if I make her cum every time, she'll naturally be less turned on and will not initiate sex for longer than I like, and often reject it (although not in a negative sense). I love her to death, but I've found that when I finish, and I don't get her to finish, she'll want sex far sooner than usual, which is great for me. I am seriously considering not making her cum every time (and yes, I have pretty conscious control over it, as I've known her and her body for years), so that we'll be able to have more sex and enjoy it together. Note that she's repeatedly declared that she also enjoys it when I cum without making her do so, and it gives her satisfaction. Am I selfish for considering this, and do you think this is a reasonable idea? I am by no means saying that I will do this every time, but perhaps make her cum 50-60% of the time, which is still good, considering that many women never get to feel an intense orgasm. I'm open to any and all insights. Thanks.



Submitted September 04, 2021 at 12:33AM

Alright, I get how this sounds. This is not a humble brag - it's something I'm really worrying about. I'm a 22 year old guy, and my girl is also 22. We have great sex, but my sex drive is far higher than her's. Ideally and realistically, I would like to have sex 1-2 times a day. However, we only have sex maybe 3-4 times a week, and it's GREAT. We are present, connected, and in the zone when we're doing it, and we finish together almost every time. But I've noticed that if I make her cum every time, she'll naturally be less turned on and will not initiate sex for longer than I like, and often reject it (although not in a negative sense). I love her to death, but I've found that when I finish, and I don't get her to finish, she'll want sex far sooner than usual, which is great for me. I am seriously considering not making her cum every time (and yes, I have pretty conscious control over it, as I've known her and her body for years), so that we'll be able to have more sex and enjoy it together. Note that she's repeatedly declared that she also enjoys it when I cum without making her do so, and it gives her satisfaction. Am I selfish for considering this, and do you think this is a reasonable idea? I am by no means saying that I will do this every time, but perhaps make her cum 50-60% of the time, which is still good, considering that many women never get to feel an intense orgasm. I'm open to any and all insights. Thanks.
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