I'm (19M) in a bit of a bind between my gf (19F) and roommate (21M)

To start, we're a pretty introverted couple - got together last year but have known each other longer. My current living situation began with getting a 2BR with a friend of a friend, didn't know him that well. We didn't have common interests much but it didn't matter much as we do our own thing (he's a black athlete, i'm a white homebody). As my gf and I got closer she's been around more and, after agreeing with roommate that i'd pay extra for her to live here too, we all seem to be on the same page. Once I got a tv in the living room though, there has been more common socializing between us three for several months, and it's all been positive.

But about the last month or so I could notice him being more bold, whether to show off or one up me to get attention. At first I didn't care much cause i'm not insecure about it, and she didn't entertain it much. But some actions made me think twice such as wearing way undersized shirts (which for her can be very revealing) or "forget" to wear a bra. Of course, it just emboldens him.

I don't think she'd actually do anything, so that part doesn't bother me. But am i in the wrong to wonder if she's taken to making me jealous? It's not until recently I realized how passionate we've been and I've been crazy for her, and it's probably for this reason. But it kills me now wondering if she's been doing that on purpose. And if so is that a red flag?

TLDR: Roommate and gf teasing, keeping it mostly respectful but it's brought us together more. Not sure if should be concerned

Submitted July 15, 2021 at 11:58PM

To start, we're a pretty introverted couple - got together last year but have known each other longer. My current living situation began with getting a 2BR with a friend of a friend, didn't know him that well. We didn't have common interests much but it didn't matter much as we do our own thing (he's a black athlete, i'm a white homebody). As my gf and I got closer she's been around more and, after agreeing with roommate that i'd pay extra for her to live here too, we all seem to be on the same page. Once I got a tv in the living room though, there has been more common socializing between us three for several months, and it's all been positive.But about the last month or so I could notice him being more bold, whether to show off or one up me to get attention. At first I didn't care much cause i'm not insecure about it, and she didn't entertain it much. But some actions made me think twice such as wearing way undersized shirts (which for her can be very revealing) or "forget" to wear a bra. Of course, it just emboldens him.I don't think she'd actually do anything, so that part doesn't bother me. But am i in the wrong to wonder if she's taken to making me jealous? It's not until recently I realized how passionate we've been and I've been crazy for her, and it's probably for this reason. But it kills me now wondering if she's been doing that on purpose. And if so is that a red flag?TLDR: Roommate and gf teasing, keeping it mostly respectful but it's brought us together more. Not sure if should be concerned