My love life

Hello, I'm a 20 year old guy. I've been in love with this girl for more than 3-4 years. I've always thought about living the rest of my life with her.

We have never really officially dated but when we met( 4 years ago), we got very deeply attached to each other. We used to say I love you to each other, think about living as a family, helped each other grow as a person. This phase sadly ended after a year. We were really immature back then. (~lasted for 1.5 years)

She had me blocked after that and would randomly unblock and text me whenever anything in her life would make her sad/ vulnerable. Her frequency of texting me increased over time. One in a 100 times she would actually text me to talk to me. Gradually we started talking again.

She claims she has no feelings for me now, as she had been for a long while. But the thing is she would always show strong hints of mutual attraction, taking the extra steps of care that no normal friend or even a family member would make.

Recently she has lost interest in anything I say and she never really lets me speak. She is the one talking all the time. If I try anything she gets angry. She did ask me out twice this year but I could not tell if she asked me to go out with her physically or like go out out. I've clearly confessed that I like her alot multiple times.

Sadly I got really upset from her recent super distant behaviour and blocked her as whenever I talked with her I felt so sad. I think I deep down know I should let her go. So I'm avoiding her.

The point is, this is not the first time I've tried to let go of her, but she is all I think about when I wake up, when I go to sleep, she is always on my mind. She has been always on my mind for the past 4 years. It hurts so much when she is sad. I want her to be happy for the rest of her life. It also makes me sad when I even think about her kissing other boys.

I really don't know what to do. I've tried dating other people to move on but I feel super guilty of going out with other people.

It's a very humble request, please don't make fun of me or make comments to hurt me. I need genuine help and advice. I don't know what to do. Please. Help.



Submitted May 11, 2020 at 12:16AM

Hello, I'm a 20 year old guy. I've been in love with this girl for more than 3-4 years. I've always thought about living the rest of my life with her.We have never really officially dated but when we met( 4 years ago), we got very deeply attached to each other. We used to say I love you to each other, think about living as a family, helped each other grow as a person. This phase sadly ended after a year. We were really immature back then. (~lasted for 1.5 years)She had me blocked after that and would randomly unblock and text me whenever anything in her life would make her sad/ vulnerable. Her frequency of texting me increased over time. One in a 100 times she would actually text me to talk to me. Gradually we started talking again.She claims she has no feelings for me now, as she had been for a long while. But the thing is she would always show strong hints of mutual attraction, taking the extra steps of care that no normal friend or even a family member would make.Recently she has lost interest in anything I say and she never really lets me speak. She is the one talking all the time. If I try anything she gets angry. She did ask me out twice this year but I could not tell if she asked me to go out with her physically or like go out out. I've clearly confessed that I like her alot multiple times.Sadly I got really upset from her recent super distant behaviour and blocked her as whenever I talked with her I felt so sad. I think I deep down know I should let her go. So I'm avoiding her.The point is, this is not the first time I've tried to let go of her, but she is all I think about when I wake up, when I go to sleep, she is always on my mind. She has been always on my mind for the past 4 years. It hurts so much when she is sad. I want her to be happy for the rest of her life. It also makes me sad when I even think about her kissing other boys.I really don't know what to do. I've tried dating other people to move on but I feel super guilty of going out with other people.It's a very humble request, please don't make fun of me or make comments to hurt me. I need genuine help and advice. I don't know what to do. Please. Help.
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