Girls, how do you keep him interested?

I(23F) was always someone who was really serious and needed things to be really concrete about expectations etc. but now I could care less. Nobody seems to want to talk to one person at a time and I don't really want to either- I just don't know how to play the game! Any advice on how to keep a person you're not in a relationship with yet (or not) interested?

I know the whole "just be yourself", "be honest about how you feel" is a cute thought to have but not during the early talking phase..especially during this whole quarantine situation. Besides that, a lot of guys would approach me or flirt with me in general and would quickly lose interest when they realize they I don't really provide a feeling of "the chase". I'm more of a chill person- I'll answer right away if my phone is in my hand, and if they don't seem interested anymore I won't chase them. Things die out when I'm being genuine right off the bat because I didn't have the time to play along.

But I didn't really care about those men anyway. Now I really like someone(23M)and I want to keep him. we aren't together, and he's talking to other girls for sure. But i do know i'm the one who understands him most. but that can only go so far. I just want to know how to peak his interest the most out of all of them.

I appreciate the genuine advice I see on here about loving yourself/being true etc. but I'm fine in that aspect of my life- just mentioning it on here since i've been told this before by friends who don't really date around. I would love to here about people's experiences on how they kept themselves in someone's radar instead.



Submitted May 14, 2020 at 12:17AM

I(23F) was always someone who was really serious and needed things to be really concrete about expectations etc. but now I could care less. Nobody seems to want to talk to one person at a time and I don't really want to either- I just don't know how to play the game! Any advice on how to keep a person you're not in a relationship with yet (or not) interested?I know the whole "just be yourself", "be honest about how you feel" is a cute thought to have but not during the early talking phase..especially during this whole quarantine situation. Besides that, a lot of guys would approach me or flirt with me in general and would quickly lose interest when they realize they I don't really provide a feeling of "the chase". I'm more of a chill person- I'll answer right away if my phone is in my hand, and if they don't seem interested anymore I won't chase them. Things die out when I'm being genuine right off the bat because I didn't have the time to play along.But I didn't really care about those men anyway. Now I really like someone(23M)and I want to keep him. we aren't together, and he's talking to other girls for sure. But i do know i'm the one who understands him most. but that can only go so far. I just want to know how to peak his interest the most out of all of them.I appreciate the genuine advice I see on here about loving yourself/being true etc. but I'm fine in that aspect of my life- just mentioning it on here since i've been told this before by friends who don't really date around. I would love to here about people's experiences on how they kept themselves in someone's radar instead.
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