Advise on Confessing

I've been talking to this girl online for the past two months and over the past two months we've gotten really close with each other. We started talking during quarantine and so we haven't been able to hang often. During the quarantine I've only seen her twice and for the two times that I saw her we both had a really great time just going for a walk and talking. She always tells me how much she wants to hang out with me and she even said that she was more comfortable hanging with me 1 on 1 instead of bringing our friends.

Even though we've mostly communicated through texts, she has told me a lot of personal stuff about her past and constantly vented to me. She even told me that I was her go to person whenever something good or bad happens to her. Another thing was that earlier in our conversation she asked me who I liked and what I like in girls. This gave me a thought that she maybe interested in being in a relationship with me. There were even a few times where we stayed up til 5am just talking about our lives and the things we both went through. When I asked her if she was interested she told me she didn't want to say anything because she didn't want to ruin anything as it may have been too early at the moment. Considering that she told me I was like the only guy she really talked to a lot I started to convince myself that it was me

I feel like it could really workout with her as we both support and care for each other but I haven't confessed that I really do like her a lot. Do you guys think that I should confess to her after two months? I feel like we do connect and things have been going great between the two of us. We've been talking a lot more lately about anything really. But at the same time if she doesn't like me it would really hurt me if we lose our friendship if I get rejected.

What do you guys think I should do in this situation?



Submitted May 14, 2020 at 12:05AM

I've been talking to this girl online for the past two months and over the past two months we've gotten really close with each other. We started talking during quarantine and so we haven't been able to hang often. During the quarantine I've only seen her twice and for the two times that I saw her we both had a really great time just going for a walk and talking. She always tells me how much she wants to hang out with me and she even said that she was more comfortable hanging with me 1 on 1 instead of bringing our friends.Even though we've mostly communicated through texts, she has told me a lot of personal stuff about her past and constantly vented to me. She even told me that I was her go to person whenever something good or bad happens to her. Another thing was that earlier in our conversation she asked me who I liked and what I like in girls. This gave me a thought that she maybe interested in being in a relationship with me. There were even a few times where we stayed up til 5am just talking about our lives and the things we both went through. When I asked her if she was interested she told me she didn't want to say anything because she didn't want to ruin anything as it may have been too early at the moment. Considering that she told me I was like the only guy she really talked to a lot I started to convince myself that it was meI feel like it could really workout with her as we both support and care for each other but I haven't confessed that I really do like her a lot. Do you guys think that I should confess to her after two months? I feel like we do connect and things have been going great between the two of us. We've been talking a lot more lately about anything really. But at the same time if she doesn't like me it would really hurt me if we lose our friendship if I get rejected.What do you guys think I should do in this situation?
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