𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐆𝐅 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐀𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬

From my experiences, one of the biggest struggles I’ve noticed men have is the fear to interact with women in social settings because they feel like all the girls will say no to who they are at their core.

They want to ask THAT girl out but is afraid she will think he is weird, tell all her girlfriends, and think there’s something wrong with him.

What helped me and many other men:

If you don’t have much positive experience talking to girls and you are that afraid of them saying no, change your view on what “rejection” really is and just start by asking out one.

Her “no” doesn’t mean that you don’t have worth and you should think in extremes.

Ex: “she rejected me because girls don’t wanna be picked up in my Toyota even if it’s a 2020 model.”

Wrong. It has nothing to do with your car.

And all to with the way you equate your current career status with your entire value as a man.

Your values like being able to find humor in difficult situations, getting her to laugh when she hasn’t has the best day at work, expressing your intent confidently and just wants someone to talk to because chances are the guy who’s running his own business making 200k a year could be boring, not give her any emotions and think his money can do all the talking.

Or even if he does he may always put any demand of his business above her.

Of course business comes first, but many guys (my gf and many other girls told me this) will not really be able to meet the needs of the girl while meeting his own.

It’s so easy to become attracted to someone’s external success like money that we overlook there lack of inner success.

Why do you think a lot of woman cheat? Because they feel like they don’t get enough attention and love.

If she didn’t see the amazing qualities you have, and if you have to try so hard for her to see them then she isn’t for you.

Be prepared to show everything and be prepared to walk away immediately if she doesn’t want you. No hard feelings. Be vulnerable enough to do that, don’t half show who you are, either fully do or don’t. Do not hide.

After all, do you really want to be with someone who will waist your time who can’t decide if she wants to be with you or not?

If she’s unsure of you isn’t that a turn off?

Know your worth even if others don’t see it.

Having the first yes can help a lot, as you get desensitized to anxiety and social settings and learn to let go of them.

BUT do not rely on her yes to boost your confidence. Again, see your worth regardless and draw source of happiness from within, and she will add to that and share it together.

You don’t own woman and you aren’t entitled to shit. So don’t lose sleep over her and understand that nothing should be forced.

Be ok with the worst and aim for the best. You can do it.

Submitted May 16, 2020 at 12:10AM

From my experiences, one of the biggest struggles I’ve noticed men have is the fear to interact with women in social settings because they feel like all the girls will say no to who they are at their core.They want to ask THAT girl out but is afraid she will think he is weird, tell all her girlfriends, and think there’s something wrong with him.What helped me and many other men:If you don’t have much positive experience talking to girls and you are that afraid of them saying no, change your view on what “rejection” really is and just start by asking out one.Her “no” doesn’t mean that you don’t have worth and you should think in extremes.Ex: “she rejected me because girls don’t wanna be picked up in my Toyota even if it’s a 2020 model.”Wrong. It has nothing to do with your car.And all to with the way you equate your current career status with your entire value as a man.Your values like being able to find humor in difficult situations, getting her to laugh when she hasn’t has the best day at work, expressing your intent confidently and just wants someone to talk to because chances are the guy who’s running his own business making 200k a year could be boring, not give her any emotions and think his money can do all the talking.Or even if he does he may always put any demand of his business above her.Of course business comes first, but many guys (my gf and many other girls told me this) will not really be able to meet the needs of the girl while meeting his own.It’s so easy to become attracted to someone’s external success like money that we overlook there lack of inner success.Why do you think a lot of woman cheat? Because they feel like they don’t get enough attention and love.If she didn’t see the amazing qualities you have, and if you have to try so hard for her to see them then she isn’t for you.Be prepared to show everything and be prepared to walk away immediately if she doesn’t want you. No hard feelings. Be vulnerable enough to do that, don’t half show who you are, either fully do or don’t. Do not hide.After all, do you really want to be with someone who will waist your time who can’t decide if she wants to be with you or not?If she’s unsure of you isn’t that a turn off?Know your worth even if others don’t see it.Having the first yes can help a lot, as you get desensitized to anxiety and social settings and learn to let go of them.BUT do not rely on her yes to boost your confidence. Again, see your worth regardless and draw source of happiness from within, and she will add to that and share it together.You don’t own woman and you aren’t entitled to shit. So don’t lose sleep over her and understand that nothing should be forced.Be ok with the worst and aim for the best. You can do it.