How to keep a partner satisfied enough so that they will not cheat?

My girlfriend (27F) and I (20F) had a kind of rough patch because I suspected that she was cheating on me. I never found conclusive proof like tests or pictures but I don’t want to lose her.

I read somewhere that if you “ drain someone’s balls” metaphorically they will not want to to cheat. I also know that a routine sex life can bring somebody to cheat. But sometimes it’s hard to tell when somebody is horny- even if they’re in the best mood they still might not fells up to it.

I have tried to spice up our sex life by initiating sex with my girlfriend in a closet or in the backseat of a car and letting her explore her fetish of hurting me during sex.

Sometimes she is really into it and we’d have a great time cuddling afterwards. But sometimes she laughs and says that I’m so desperate. And then she’ll act like she’s doing me a favor for letting me pleasure her and just lay there and move me around. What really hurts is when she’s even on her phone sometimes and gets really cold if I pause.

When she’s into sex I know I’m satisfying her but she’s not, I feel like I’m being a bother to her. But if I don’t give her sex a lot, I’m afraid she’ll look elsewhere. How do I keep that balance?

I’m even considering stuff like changing my look so it’ll enhance the feeling that she’s getting variety in sex, like dying my hair or losing a lot of weight because she said sex with waif like women recently has been turning her on and I’m naturally an hourglass.

Submitted March 10, 2020 at 12:15AM

My girlfriend (27F) and I (20F) had a kind of rough patch because I suspected that she was cheating on me. I never found conclusive proof like tests or pictures but I don’t want to lose her.I read somewhere that if you “ drain someone’s balls” metaphorically they will not want to to cheat. I also know that a routine sex life can bring somebody to cheat. But sometimes it’s hard to tell when somebody is horny- even if they’re in the best mood they still might not fells up to it.I have tried to spice up our sex life by initiating sex with my girlfriend in a closet or in the backseat of a car and letting her explore her fetish of hurting me during sex.Sometimes she is really into it and we’d have a great time cuddling afterwards. But sometimes she laughs and says that I’m so desperate. And then she’ll act like she’s doing me a favor for letting me pleasure her and just lay there and move me around. What really hurts is when she’s even on her phone sometimes and gets really cold if I pause.When she’s into sex I know I’m satisfying her but she’s not, I feel like I’m being a bother to her. But if I don’t give her sex a lot, I’m afraid she’ll look elsewhere. How do I keep that balance?I’m even considering stuff like changing my look so it’ll enhance the feeling that she’s getting variety in sex, like dying my hair or losing a lot of weight because she said sex with waif like women recently has been turning her on and I’m naturally an hourglass.