No sex life due to boyfriends schedule

Hi all.

So my boyfriend works in the news and about a month or so ago he started working the morning show. He goes to bed at 6 and wakes up at 2. Our sex became infrequent, and eventually nonexistent. He is tired and says his body just can’t keep up this new schedule, and in result he is just never horny. If he can get it up he can’t keep it up. I feel really bad for him. I can’t imagine having his shitty schedule and having to go to bed at an ungodly time, as well. We’ve talked it through and he is amazing- he tries so hard to show me that I am still desired. He cooks for me every night, he bought me a big ass cookie and a rose the other night lol. He spends extra time with me because my love language is touch and quality time. He’s doing everything right. More than right- he’s going above and beyond. I’m still really really struggling though. I get angry and emotional. Last week I cried every night to him about it. I’m only 22 and I’m horny as hell lol. After a week I really start to feel like I’m going crazy without sex and we just went 4 weeks without it. I even bought a dildo for my self even though I hardly even know how to Masturbate lolol. It’s just hard not having that connection. I also just moved states to be closer to him because we were long distance for 6 months. Living in a city where he is one of the only people I know I guess I expect to spend all of my free time with him- and that just isn’t an option. I recognize that I can’t expect him to fill the position of all of my friends, but it’s just hard for the time being because I really don’t know anyone here yet. All of my friends from home are also Christians and don’t believe in sex before marriage, so I can’t talk to them about it.

Do you guys have any advice, or just stories of when you went through times like this? I think him and I (especially him) are doing our best with this situation, but it’s still really rough.



Submitted February 01, 2020 at 11:45PM

Hi all.So my boyfriend works in the news and about a month or so ago he started working the morning show. He goes to bed at 6 and wakes up at 2. Our sex became infrequent, and eventually nonexistent. He is tired and says his body just can’t keep up this new schedule, and in result he is just never horny. If he can get it up he can’t keep it up. I feel really bad for him. I can’t imagine having his shitty schedule and having to go to bed at an ungodly time, as well. We’ve talked it through and he is amazing- he tries so hard to show me that I am still desired. He cooks for me every night, he bought me a big ass cookie and a rose the other night lol. He spends extra time with me because my love language is touch and quality time. He’s doing everything right. More than right- he’s going above and beyond. I’m still really really struggling though. I get angry and emotional. Last week I cried every night to him about it. I’m only 22 and I’m horny as hell lol. After a week I really start to feel like I’m going crazy without sex and we just went 4 weeks without it. I even bought a dildo for my self even though I hardly even know how to Masturbate lolol. It’s just hard not having that connection. I also just moved states to be closer to him because we were long distance for 6 months. Living in a city where he is one of the only people I know I guess I expect to spend all of my free time with him- and that just isn’t an option. I recognize that I can’t expect him to fill the position of all of my friends, but it’s just hard for the time being because I really don’t know anyone here yet. All of my friends from home are also Christians and don’t believe in sex before marriage, so I can’t talk to them about it.Do you guys have any advice, or just stories of when you went through times like this? I think him and I (especially him) are doing our best with this situation, but it’s still really rough.
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