How to forget/remove him from my brain

I met this fantastic guy off hinge who is from the UK. I am from Canada. I spontaneously said yes to going on a date with him and it was fantastic. We connected so quickly, humorous banter, lots to discuss. We spent about 2 hours at the restaurant and then he walked me back to my place. I invited him upstairs and one thing led to another. He stayed until the morning and left before he had to go to work. He came over the next night and then the following night. It was honestly magical. I thought this was the first sign of a long term thing.

Now, on the first date he mentioned that he would be flying home at the end of the week, but his company was planning to have someone come live in Canada more permanently at the end of the month.

Once he flew home, we chatted on and off. He wasn’t the best texter, maybe hearing from him every couple days, but I was having trouble forgetting the incredible dates we had.

Turns out his company didn’t need to send anyone to Canada anymore, and he made it clear he didn’t want to do long distance so we decided to stay friends....whatever that means from a distance.

Im having trouble forgetting him though. And we still chat and flirt and have talked about seeing each other if we’re visiting our respective countries, but the connection is hard to forget.

I’ve always been the type of person that if someone like that comes along in your life, you’ll find a way to make it work because it’s rare. I understand, particularly in this circumstance, that the UK and Canada are not close, and would pose complications, especially at the initial stage of us getting to know each other.

At the end of the day I’m feeling stuck and frustrated that there is nothing I can do or say to make him want to try. So does anyone have any advice on how to move on?

Submitted February 26, 2020 at 11:37PM

I met this fantastic guy off hinge who is from the UK. I am from Canada. I spontaneously said yes to going on a date with him and it was fantastic. We connected so quickly, humorous banter, lots to discuss. We spent about 2 hours at the restaurant and then he walked me back to my place. I invited him upstairs and one thing led to another. He stayed until the morning and left before he had to go to work. He came over the next night and then the following night. It was honestly magical. I thought this was the first sign of a long term thing.Now, on the first date he mentioned that he would be flying home at the end of the week, but his company was planning to have someone come live in Canada more permanently at the end of the month.Once he flew home, we chatted on and off. He wasn’t the best texter, maybe hearing from him every couple days, but I was having trouble forgetting the incredible dates we had.Turns out his company didn’t need to send anyone to Canada anymore, and he made it clear he didn’t want to do long distance so we decided to stay friends....whatever that means from a distance.Im having trouble forgetting him though. And we still chat and flirt and have talked about seeing each other if we’re visiting our respective countries, but the connection is hard to forget.I’ve always been the type of person that if someone like that comes along in your life, you’ll find a way to make it work because it’s rare. I understand, particularly in this circumstance, that the UK and Canada are not close, and would pose complications, especially at the initial stage of us getting to know each other.At the end of the day I’m feeling stuck and frustrated that there is nothing I can do or say to make him want to try. So does anyone have any advice on how to move on?