I want to strengthen my relationship (17M) with my brother (20) really don't know how or if I should.

Me and my brother have never necessarily been close. To start, we're half brothers, we share the same dad. He lives in NY and I live in NJ so needless to say, there's a fair bit of distance between us. Whether or not I'd like to admit it, I've always looked up to him and I really care about him. I remember when I was younger, I'd always want to be like him. I wanted to dress like him, listen to his music, even kind of look like him. But even from that age, it kind of seemed to me like he didn't want to know me, like I was just an annoyance. Well, as we got older I started to hang with him when he came down to visit my dad,(my mom and dad are split up) and we kind of bonded, or so I thought. One week, me and my friend went to NY for the weekend. We were alone and wanted to do some fun things. I thought, who better to ask than my brother? He lives in the Bronx and we were Manhattan, a little bit of a husk but nothing insane, so he said that he wanted us to go to the burrow, we weren't allowed, and he said to hit him up when we had a plan. I texted him multiple times and must've called around 3...nothing. He came down this Christmas and asked my dad why I didn't want to visit. My dad told him, and my brother said that he didn't think much of it. Well, my dad actually stood up for me and told him that yeah, it was a dick thing to do, and my brother apparently seemed to understand. He never called me to apologise, never texted me, and when my dad dropped my sister off and my house, my brother just kind of side hugged me and left. I don't know if I should reach out and tell him how I feel, or if it's not worth the effort.

TL;DR My brother is kind of a dick, feels bad for being a dick but hasn't apologized. Should I reach out to him?

Submitted January 30, 2020 at 11:55PM

Me and my brother have never necessarily been close. To start, we're half brothers, we share the same dad. He lives in NY and I live in NJ so needless to say, there's a fair bit of distance between us. Whether or not I'd like to admit it, I've always looked up to him and I really care about him. I remember when I was younger, I'd always want to be like him. I wanted to dress like him, listen to his music, even kind of look like him. But even from that age, it kind of seemed to me like he didn't want to know me, like I was just an annoyance. Well, as we got older I started to hang with him when he came down to visit my dad,(my mom and dad are split up) and we kind of bonded, or so I thought. One week, me and my friend went to NY for the weekend. We were alone and wanted to do some fun things. I thought, who better to ask than my brother? He lives in the Bronx and we were Manhattan, a little bit of a husk but nothing insane, so he said that he wanted us to go to the burrow, we weren't allowed, and he said to hit him up when we had a plan. I texted him multiple times and must've called around 3...nothing. He came down this Christmas and asked my dad why I didn't want to visit. My dad told him, and my brother said that he didn't think much of it. Well, my dad actually stood up for me and told him that yeah, it was a dick thing to do, and my brother apparently seemed to understand. He never called me to apologise, never texted me, and when my dad dropped my sister off and my house, my brother just kind of side hugged me and left. I don't know if I should reach out and tell him how I feel, or if it's not worth the effort.TL;DR My brother is kind of a dick, feels bad for being a dick but hasn't apologized. Should I reach out to him?