Feeling bad about the money that got literally wasted.

Dunno where exactly to start tbh. Had a LDR for 2 years (F21) (M21), and with long distance, I really mean it. I feel like we really loved each other, we had our problems tho, mainly cultural ones. We still had plans for the future, wanted to meet up badly. At that time I had a minimum wage job, so there was no way I could afford the money for a really long time. He talked with his parents, mainly his dad, and he offered to pay for the entire flight (~800$), plus every other costs that would come with it, so at the end it was probably around 1000$. I thought about it for a long time, but my ex said I should just do it when his dad is okay with it. So, I did meet him, but shit just got worse. Some issues with his parents, apparently they didn't like me at all he told me after it, even when I tried to be really polite, and I'm not known as a natural rude person imo. I guess cultural differences and a language barrier with his mom were the main problems there. Plus, our problems got worse too. When I was back home, we did broke up after like 2 months, it was unbearable. I really had the hope that our relationship would get better after the meet up, but it just got much worse. Ultimately, I decided to end this relationship for good, and he complained that his family got financial problems out of this. I still feel terrible that his dad lost so much money. It was more or less a "investment" in the relationship of his son, but everything went to shit shortly after it. Dunno where exactly to start tbh. Had a LDR for 2 years (F21) (M21), and with long distance, I really mean it. I feel like we really loved each other, we had our problems tho, mainly cultural ones. We still had plans for the future, wanted to meet up badly. At that time I had a minimum wage job, so there was no way I could afford the money for a really long time. He talked with his parents, mainly his dad, and he offered to pay for the entire flight (~800$), plus every other costs that would come with it, so at the end it was probably around 1000$. I thought about it for a long time, but my ex said I should just do it when his dad is okay with it. So, I did meet him, but shit just got worse. Some issues with his parents, apparently they didn't like me at all he told me after it, even when I tried to be really polite, and I'm not known as a natural rude person imo. I guess cultural differences and a language barrier with his mom were the main problems there. Plus, our problems got worse too. When I was back home, we did broke up after like 2 months, it was unbearable. I really had the hope that our relationship would get better after the meet up, but it just got much worse. Ultimately, I decided to end this relationship for good, and he complained that his family got financial problems out of this. I still feel terrible that his dad lost so much money. It was more or less a "investment" in the relationship of his son, but everything went to shit shortly after it. Should I (still) feel bad about it? Or just move on without thinking (too much) about it? It really still bugs me.

TL;DR: His family got in financial problems because of me and our meet up, and it didn't last long after it. Should I still feel bad or just try to move on?

Submitted January 31, 2020 at 12:01AM

Dunno where exactly to start tbh. Had a LDR for 2 years (F21) (M21), and with long distance, I really mean it. I feel like we really loved each other, we had our problems tho, mainly cultural ones. We still had plans for the future, wanted to meet up badly. At that time I had a minimum wage job, so there was no way I could afford the money for a really long time. He talked with his parents, mainly his dad, and he offered to pay for the entire flight (~800$), plus every other costs that would come with it, so at the end it was probably around 1000$. I thought about it for a long time, but my ex said I should just do it when his dad is okay with it. So, I did meet him, but shit just got worse. Some issues with his parents, apparently they didn't like me at all he told me after it, even when I tried to be really polite, and I'm not known as a natural rude person imo. I guess cultural differences and a language barrier with his mom were the main problems there. Plus, our problems got worse too. When I was back home, we did broke up after like 2 months, it was unbearable. I really had the hope that our relationship would get better after the meet up, but it just got much worse. Ultimately, I decided to end this relationship for good, and he complained that his family got financial problems out of this. I still feel terrible that his dad lost so much money. It was more or less a "investment" in the relationship of his son, but everything went to shit shortly after it. Dunno where exactly to start tbh. Had a LDR for 2 years (F21) (M21), and with long distance, I really mean it. I feel like we really loved each other, we had our problems tho, mainly cultural ones. We still had plans for the future, wanted to meet up badly. At that time I had a minimum wage job, so there was no way I could afford the money for a really long time. He talked with his parents, mainly his dad, and he offered to pay for the entire flight (~800$), plus every other costs that would come with it, so at the end it was probably around 1000$. I thought about it for a long time, but my ex said I should just do it when his dad is okay with it. So, I did meet him, but shit just got worse. Some issues with his parents, apparently they didn't like me at all he told me after it, even when I tried to be really polite, and I'm not known as a natural rude person imo. I guess cultural differences and a language barrier with his mom were the main problems there. Plus, our problems got worse too. When I was back home, we did broke up after like 2 months, it was unbearable. I really had the hope that our relationship would get better after the meet up, but it just got much worse. Ultimately, I decided to end this relationship for good, and he complained that his family got financial problems out of this. I still feel terrible that his dad lost so much money. It was more or less a "investment" in the relationship of his son, but everything went to shit shortly after it. Should I (still) feel bad about it? Or just move on without thinking (too much) about it? It really still bugs me.TL;DR: His family got in financial problems because of me and our meet up, and it didn't last long after it. Should I still feel bad or just try to move on?