Relationship struggles

Hey anyone who reads this, thanks for your time.

So here we go, I am a male in a relationship with a girl and i can say i love her but its been downhill many times and little splits and we get back together because we both genuinely love eachother well i hope so atleast but there's been problems she's had and i fixed them all like for example she feels like i call her over and then focus on talking to my friends and she just sits there and listens so i fixed that even though i don't think i done it i still made sure i didn't for her sake, but anyway i've had a problem where she is like flirty i feel so basically she is the only female in a friend group which i am apart of and ever single person in this friend group has liked her/still does and she liked one of them 2/3 years ago and she dated two guys in this friend group i know it sounds really hectic and shit but that's how it is, she dating one guy cos of like another girl she was friends with basically pushing them together and they only ever hugged like a few times in their relationship then the other guy she dated for 8 ish months and only ever hugged not often too, she's then been with me and we have kissed and 3rd base and all, we've done it all. Sorry for going off the story this is my first reddit post :) but anyway i can tell she genuinely loved me because of all she done and been through with me but my problem was she is like the girlfriend of the group like she can have guy friends and stuff but like being so close to her exes like its fine but sometimes it annoys me and i feel like im sharing her with every single guy like im not trying to own her completely but like i want her attention solely the romantic way but she is so touchy too and flirtatious i've been told and when i speak to my friends they have agreed she will like laugh at jokes and like touch their arms and push close to them like she's arm linking and a bit more it may sound childish but im just a jealous type and don't like to go through this and i've explained my problem and pain and how i feel so many times and i feel like it happens ten fold every time it's mentioned and we broke up just an hour ago and we agreed to not tell anyone yet because we may get back together because we still love eachother but i don't know if this is the relationship for me deep down because my mental health has depleted so much like ofc there was happy moments but like still. She is in my class so i will see her for another like 2 years and i've invested so much and it's like i don't wanna lose her because of all the repercussions like it may mess up the friend group and i have to see her everyday and just ugh idk. i wish i could send my whole relationship history to your guys brains it would be easier lol but thanks for listening ( i know i made it super confusing and im sorry)



Submitted December 08, 2019 at 11:58PM

Hey anyone who reads this, thanks for your time.So here we go, I am a male in a relationship with a girl and i can say i love her but its been downhill many times and little splits and we get back together because we both genuinely love eachother well i hope so atleast but there's been problems she's had and i fixed them all like for example she feels like i call her over and then focus on talking to my friends and she just sits there and listens so i fixed that even though i don't think i done it i still made sure i didn't for her sake, but anyway i've had a problem where she is like flirty i feel so basically she is the only female in a friend group which i am apart of and ever single person in this friend group has liked her/still does and she liked one of them 2/3 years ago and she dated two guys in this friend group i know it sounds really hectic and shit but that's how it is, she dating one guy cos of like another girl she was friends with basically pushing them together and they only ever hugged like a few times in their relationship then the other guy she dated for 8 ish months and only ever hugged not often too, she's then been with me and we have kissed and 3rd base and all, we've done it all. Sorry for going off the story this is my first reddit post :) but anyway i can tell she genuinely loved me because of all she done and been through with me but my problem was she is like the girlfriend of the group like she can have guy friends and stuff but like being so close to her exes like its fine but sometimes it annoys me and i feel like im sharing her with every single guy like im not trying to own her completely but like i want her attention solely the romantic way but she is so touchy too and flirtatious i've been told and when i speak to my friends they have agreed she will like laugh at jokes and like touch their arms and push close to them like she's arm linking and a bit more it may sound childish but im just a jealous type and don't like to go through this and i've explained my problem and pain and how i feel so many times and i feel like it happens ten fold every time it's mentioned and we broke up just an hour ago and we agreed to not tell anyone yet because we may get back together because we still love eachother but i don't know if this is the relationship for me deep down because my mental health has depleted so much like ofc there was happy moments but like still. She is in my class so i will see her for another like 2 years and i've invested so much and it's like i don't wanna lose her because of all the repercussions like it may mess up the friend group and i have to see her everyday and just ugh idk. i wish i could send my whole relationship history to your guys brains it would be easier lol but thanks for listening ( i know i made it super confusing and im sorry)

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