How can I [17F] ask out a guy [17M] at church when I can't actually talk to him?

Since I'm still in high school and in a relatively religious family, I am forced to go to Catholic mass every Sunday. Normally I zone out and pay zero attention to anyone else there, but occasionally I see this guy who I find very attractive, who is also there with his family. Because our families usually go to different masses, I almost never see him (only about once every 2 months or so). However, whenever we're both there we make a lot of awkward eye contact that at least feels like we're acknowledging each other's presence.

Last week at mass, he was wearing a sweatshirt from his high school, so I was able to figure out his name from the internet, as well as a few other basic details about him (yes I know it's creepy, it's a bad habit). However, I couldn't find any social media, so it seems like the only way to get his attention/ask him out is in person. If you know anything about (white) Roman Catholicism, you likely know that there are always people who sneak into mass a minute before it starts, and sculk out immediately after the closing song ends. My family is one of those. We don't stick around to socialize, it isn't something we do. This would make it very difficult to actually talk to the guy, which would already be weird because he's with his parents.

I wrote out a note with my number that I could pass him if I saw him in church today (I didn't) but it just feels weird and kind irreverent, even though I don't consider myself Catholic. I have never asked out anyone of the opposite sex before, and I feel like doing this could come across as needy/weird, especially because I have never talked to him. For all I know, he might not even be single. I'm not sure what the best thing to do here would be. The next time I see him, should I sneak him the note? Should I give up? I'm not sure.

TLDR: There's a hot guy that I see occasionally at church and I don't know how/if I should ask him out, since I don't have the chance to actually talk to him at church. Any help would be appreciated.



Submitted December 08, 2019 at 11:30PM

Since I'm still in high school and in a relatively religious family, I am forced to go to Catholic mass every Sunday. Normally I zone out and pay zero attention to anyone else there, but occasionally I see this guy who I find very attractive, who is also there with his family. Because our families usually go to different masses, I almost never see him (only about once every 2 months or so). However, whenever we're both there we make a lot of awkward eye contact that at least feels like we're acknowledging each other's presence.Last week at mass, he was wearing a sweatshirt from his high school, so I was able to figure out his name from the internet, as well as a few other basic details about him (yes I know it's creepy, it's a bad habit). However, I couldn't find any social media, so it seems like the only way to get his attention/ask him out is in person. If you know anything about (white) Roman Catholicism, you likely know that there are always people who sneak into mass a minute before it starts, and sculk out immediately after the closing song ends. My family is one of those. We don't stick around to socialize, it isn't something we do. This would make it very difficult to actually talk to the guy, which would already be weird because he's with his parents.I wrote out a note with my number that I could pass him if I saw him in church today (I didn't) but it just feels weird and kind irreverent, even though I don't consider myself Catholic. I have never asked out anyone of the opposite sex before, and I feel like doing this could come across as needy/weird, especially because I have never talked to him. For all I know, he might not even be single. I'm not sure what the best thing to do here would be. The next time I see him, should I sneak him the note? Should I give up? I'm not sure.TLDR: There's a hot guy that I see occasionally at church and I don't know how/if I should ask him out, since I don't have the chance to actually talk to him at church. Any help would be appreciated.
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