I don’t really know what the point of this was

Gonna give some background on me. Just turned 21 a couple months ago, currently in college, spent 15-20 yrs old in two different “relationships” One 2.5 years the other 2 years. I use to always want kids and to be married and do all that stuff. Recently got over some health stuff and have been re-entering dating/real world stuff. Can’t really picture myself going back into a traditional relationship like at all marriage seems sad and kids seem like giving to much up ( I would also honestly at this point be more open to adopting a kid myself than being forced to raise a kid with someone in a situation that’s not guaranteed to work out). I think it comes to three things 1. I’m at the this point in life where friends from high school are married have kids and are miserable 2. I came to this realization where I was like why did I spend 5 years of my life in relationships when I don’t even know what I value in a partner yet 3. The health stuff since I went through a lot of it alone has made me a much more independent person where as before I would be co-dependent on not just a partner but friends and my parents.

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Submitted December 08, 2019 at 11:12PM

Gonna give some background on me. Just turned 21 a couple months ago, currently in college, spent 15-20 yrs old in two different “relationships” One 2.5 years the other 2 years. I use to always want kids and to be married and do all that stuff. Recently got over some health stuff and have been re-entering dating/real world stuff. Can’t really picture myself going back into a traditional relationship like at all marriage seems sad and kids seem like giving to much up ( I would also honestly at this point be more open to adopting a kid myself than being forced to raise a kid with someone in a situation that’s not guaranteed to work out). I think it comes to three things 1. I’m at the this point in life where friends from high school are married have kids and are miserable 2. I came to this realization where I was like why did I spend 5 years of my life in relationships when I don’t even know what I value in a partner yet 3. The health stuff since I went through a lot of it alone has made me a much more independent person where as before I would be co-dependent on not just a partner but friends and my parents.I didn’t know where to post this so I chose here
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