I'm so confused, does he (22m) like me (19f) or not?

I met this guy, let's call him T, one month ago at a mutual friend's party. Although I was not planning to meet someone new because I just finished a relationship, but we immediately hit it off, dancing, touching each other, talking. We then moved to a club together and he tried to kiss me, but I rejected him, to which he responded that he thought I was into him. I told him that I thought I was but I just finished a relationship with someone else, so I didn't feel right kissing him. I left the club and didn't hear from him until he invited my friend to his party at his apartment, and his friend invited me along too.

At this party he introduced me to his other friends, and I chatted with some of them, not really spending much time with T. Until at the end when mostly everyone left, he injured himself cleaning up. I stayed and helped him clean up the blood, and everyone left. Then we ended up laying in bed together, and he tried to make a move again. This time I kissed him, and he tried to initiate sex, to which I said no. However, we ended up staying up all night talking. He told me very personal stories from his childhood, and kept asking me to tell him things about me. He then told me he said he saw himself being in an LTR with me, and how he wish he met me earlier.

The catch is that a few days after that, he was moving to a different country for a 2 month internship. When I left in the morning he told me he wanted to see me again to say goodbye. So the next night I texted him and, and he replied much later saying I could meet up with him on Wednesday to say goodbye. I say okay. Wednesday rolls around and he doesn't text me at all. Then in the evening he texts me asking if the earring he found at his apartment was mine (it wasn't). And then he mentions that I could come over Thursday evening, and that he's been super busy and doesn't have time for any other options. I tell him okay, but if he is super busy then it's fine, we could just see each other when he comes back. He says he doesn't know when he will get home on Thursday, but will let me know. On Thursday evening he texts me saying he is still packing and cleaning before he goes, so I just told him it's fine and that I hope he has a nice trip. He says he hopes to see my in November, when he comes back. Since then it's been a week and he hasn't made an effort to text me at all.

So basically now I've just assumed he got cold feet and changed his mind about me. I feel that if he really cared/valued me he would make an effort to keep in touch. I texted him first after the nice night together, and feel that I did my share of showing him my interest in meeting him again. I'm quite confused because he showed me very strong signs of liking me that night, to basically nothing after... I keep thinking about him, and how much I really like him and care about him after he showed me his vulnerable side. I don't want to look needy and keep texting him though, so should I just wait until he comes back to see if he will initiate again? Should I forget about him completely?

Submitted September 23, 2019 at 11:55PM

I met this guy, let's call him T, one month ago at a mutual friend's party. Although I was not planning to meet someone new because I just finished a relationship, but we immediately hit it off, dancing, touching each other, talking. We then moved to a club together and he tried to kiss me, but I rejected him, to which he responded that he thought I was into him. I told him that I thought I was but I just finished a relationship with someone else, so I didn't feel right kissing him. I left the club and didn't hear from him until he invited my friend to his party at his apartment, and his friend invited me along too.At this party he introduced me to his other friends, and I chatted with some of them, not really spending much time with T. Until at the end when mostly everyone left, he injured himself cleaning up. I stayed and helped him clean up the blood, and everyone left. Then we ended up laying in bed together, and he tried to make a move again. This time I kissed him, and he tried to initiate sex, to which I said no. However, we ended up staying up all night talking. He told me very personal stories from his childhood, and kept asking me to tell him things about me. He then told me he said he saw himself being in an LTR with me, and how he wish he met me earlier.The catch is that a few days after that, he was moving to a different country for a 2 month internship. When I left in the morning he told me he wanted to see me again to say goodbye. So the next night I texted him and, and he replied much later saying I could meet up with him on Wednesday to say goodbye. I say okay. Wednesday rolls around and he doesn't text me at all. Then in the evening he texts me asking if the earring he found at his apartment was mine (it wasn't). And then he mentions that I could come over Thursday evening, and that he's been super busy and doesn't have time for any other options. I tell him okay, but if he is super busy then it's fine, we could just see each other when he comes back. He says he doesn't know when he will get home on Thursday, but will let me know. On Thursday evening he texts me saying he is still packing and cleaning before he goes, so I just told him it's fine and that I hope he has a nice trip. He says he hopes to see my in November, when he comes back. Since then it's been a week and he hasn't made an effort to text me at all.So basically now I've just assumed he got cold feet and changed his mind about me. I feel that if he really cared/valued me he would make an effort to keep in touch. I texted him first after the nice night together, and feel that I did my share of showing him my interest in meeting him again. I'm quite confused because he showed me very strong signs of liking me that night, to basically nothing after... I keep thinking about him, and how much I really like him and care about him after he showed me his vulnerable side. I don't want to look needy and keep texting him though, so should I just wait until he comes back to see if he will initiate again? Should I forget about him completely?