I’m in a half relationship type thing that hurts so bad, but I don’t know how to get out of it, or if I even should!

It’s a looong story bear with me fellas. Im F17, and he is M17. So me and this guy Kyle met through a school trip at the beginning of this year, and we instantly started to like each other. We talked and became close friends and ended up hanging out quite a bit. After a few months I ended up telling him I liked him. He said he felt the same but couldn’t have a relationship atm. I assumed he just lost interest and moved on and got over him. Then, a month ago he confessed to still liking me and apologized for leading me on before. Without asking me if I still liked him, he just assumed that I did, and said that he was heartbroken that a relationship likely won’t work out btw us. (Both our parents don’t allow us to date til we’re older, and my religion is a deal breaker for his parents..) I panicked and told him I still liked him too. I’m unsure if I truly like him but I can say that I can talk to him about literally anything and he helps me with my problems, which I love because I don’t actually have that many friends I can talk to. I love the feeling of being so close to someone like I am with him. And the thought of him with another girl makes me so uncomfortable. Anyways, we decided to stay friends and we’ve been hanging out weekly to put effort into the friendship. The thing is, I enjoy it, but I’m not sure its such a good idea to continue it bc we will never be able to date and I don’t want to date him either, and we’ve made it clear that we won’t, but it still is starting to feel like a relationship and I’m constantly paranoid that he’s going to end our friendship any second and it will feel like a breakup and I’ll be sad. So I’m thinking about just ending our weekly hangouts now since it’s basically a forced friendship, and waiting until all feelings are completely gone before trying for a friendship again. I’m just not sure if it’s necessary because I love the person he is so much, he’s so good at heart, but I always feel like shit because of our half relationship/friendship thing. Should I end the weekly hangouts so we can give each other space for a while? I’d basically break his heart because we don’t see each other at school that much...I don’t want to to hurt him :(



Submitted September 24, 2019 at 12:00AM

It’s a looong story bear with me fellas. Im F17, and he is M17. So me and this guy Kyle met through a school trip at the beginning of this year, and we instantly started to like each other. We talked and became close friends and ended up hanging out quite a bit. After a few months I ended up telling him I liked him. He said he felt the same but couldn’t have a relationship atm. I assumed he just lost interest and moved on and got over him. Then, a month ago he confessed to still liking me and apologized for leading me on before. Without asking me if I still liked him, he just assumed that I did, and said that he was heartbroken that a relationship likely won’t work out btw us. (Both our parents don’t allow us to date til we’re older, and my religion is a deal breaker for his parents..) I panicked and told him I still liked him too. I’m unsure if I truly like him but I can say that I can talk to him about literally anything and he helps me with my problems, which I love because I don’t actually have that many friends I can talk to. I love the feeling of being so close to someone like I am with him. And the thought of him with another girl makes me so uncomfortable. Anyways, we decided to stay friends and we’ve been hanging out weekly to put effort into the friendship. The thing is, I enjoy it, but I’m not sure its such a good idea to continue it bc we will never be able to date and I don’t want to date him either, and we’ve made it clear that we won’t, but it still is starting to feel like a relationship and I’m constantly paranoid that he’s going to end our friendship any second and it will feel like a breakup and I’ll be sad. So I’m thinking about just ending our weekly hangouts now since it’s basically a forced friendship, and waiting until all feelings are completely gone before trying for a friendship again. I’m just not sure if it’s necessary because I love the person he is so much, he’s so good at heart, but I always feel like shit because of our half relationship/friendship thing. Should I end the weekly hangouts so we can give each other space for a while? I’d basically break his heart because we don’t see each other at school that much...I don’t want to to hurt him :(
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