I need help with my dating life. Just gonna rant here and if you read it, hopefully you can give me some advice.

I'm not even gonna be humble this time. I'm good looking. Fit body. Athletic. The problem I know is that I have a nice guy complex that i can't break. Like, I'm nervous to ask girls out cause of two things. One I dont want them to think im creepy. Two, maybe im scared of rejection.

It doesn't help that the main places I go are the gym and work. two places where it's frowned upon to be a flirt. Also, at the gym, im just trying to do my own shit.

I used to work at a bar as a bartender/server, but i never wanted to put my job in jeopardy by flirting there either, so I lost that chance too. Also, all the coworkers there were people i didnt want to date, cause i knew the type of people they were.

In university, i lived at home and commuted. i was pissed off about that and made it affect my social life, so i just kept the friends i had from highschool and didnt branch out much. I missed out on the "Uni Life" i wish i had.

So now I'm here, a good looking 25 year old that lies to his friends about romantic interactions, most of which hes never had besides the random hook up off Tinder, which i didnt care for either.

I think my biggest problem is the fear of getting into a relationship. Being one on one with someone and not messing up by being weird. I feel like at the age of 25, im expected to have gotten past the cringy phase.

It also doesnt help that if i go to my girl friends' house (friends that are girls) sometimes they bring up sex talk and like, i just dont want to talk about that openly. It's like, a mental block that, i don't want them to know about stuff that i might not want to be shared with my future (possible) partner. Like, i don't want the possibility of me being considered a player to be mentioned to my future (possibly) wife. And i've kind of developed this fake person of myself that goes on dates, sees girls every now and then, but also doesnt talk too openly about it.

I don't know, this turned into a rant, but it felt good to put it into words. I dont even think anyone's gonna read this, but if anyone has any advice, Aquavane would love to hear it, cause i am super fucked in my head right now -.-

Also, i have this mental block of never wanting to get into a relationship with anyone on tinder/hinge/bumble because i feel like theres a negative stigma about online dating. Like, the idea that of people always having cute stories how they met, and then me being like, i met on a dating site. Like i was a bartender, i am a social butterfly when just talking to people. It's turning it on to that flirty step that i fuck up, but the people close to me dont know that. So i feel like i cant be the guy that met his girlfriend on a dating app.

Submitted September 23, 2019 at 11:50PM

I'm not even gonna be humble this time. I'm good looking. Fit body. Athletic. The problem I know is that I have a nice guy complex that i can't break. Like, I'm nervous to ask girls out cause of two things. One I dont want them to think im creepy. Two, maybe im scared of rejection.It doesn't help that the main places I go are the gym and work. two places where it's frowned upon to be a flirt. Also, at the gym, im just trying to do my own shit.I used to work at a bar as a bartender/server, but i never wanted to put my job in jeopardy by flirting there either, so I lost that chance too. Also, all the coworkers there were people i didnt want to date, cause i knew the type of people they were.In university, i lived at home and commuted. i was pissed off about that and made it affect my social life, so i just kept the friends i had from highschool and didnt branch out much. I missed out on the "Uni Life" i wish i had.So now I'm here, a good looking 25 year old that lies to his friends about romantic interactions, most of which hes never had besides the random hook up off Tinder, which i didnt care for either.I think my biggest problem is the fear of getting into a relationship. Being one on one with someone and not messing up by being weird. I feel like at the age of 25, im expected to have gotten past the cringy phase.It also doesnt help that if i go to my girl friends' house (friends that are girls) sometimes they bring up sex talk and like, i just dont want to talk about that openly. It's like, a mental block that, i don't want them to know about stuff that i might not want to be shared with my future (possible) partner. Like, i don't want the possibility of me being considered a player to be mentioned to my future (possibly) wife. And i've kind of developed this fake person of myself that goes on dates, sees girls every now and then, but also doesnt talk too openly about it.I don't know, this turned into a rant, but it felt good to put it into words. I dont even think anyone's gonna read this, but if anyone has any advice, Aquavane would love to hear it, cause i am super fucked in my head right now -.-Also, i have this mental block of never wanting to get into a relationship with anyone on tinder/hinge/bumble because i feel like theres a negative stigma about online dating. Like, the idea that of people always having cute stories how they met, and then me being like, i met on a dating site. Like i was a bartender, i am a social butterfly when just talking to people. It's turning it on to that flirty step that i fuck up, but the people close to me dont know that. So i feel like i cant be the guy that met his girlfriend on a dating app.