Seeing a girl who just got out of a LTR (m20/f20)

So this girl have known for about two years, and we have been spending time together a lot over the past 8 or so months. For the entire two years I've known her, I've had an interest in her.

In the first few days of the semester, her boyfriend broke up with her. She had a rough few days after the break up, but she hasn't been getting upset about it anymore.

The night her and her boyfriend broke up, I had been hanging out with her and our mutual friends. I was sitting on a chair next to her bed and she invited me to sit on her bed, then invited me to lay down next to her. (Obviously) I did, and I kept to myself without touching her because I didn't want to make any move while she was vulnerable. Our friends left to grab groceries, and I stayed with her to keep her company so she wasn't alone. We went for a drive and to grab fast food, and she shared a traumatic story that she hadn't shared with anyone else before--including her now ex-boyfriend. We went back to her apartment and spent time together, just talking and cutting up--trying to keep her mind on other things. Eventually we both just fell asleep, and while she was asleep, she ended up scooting closer to me and cuddling with me. I woke her up, and made sure it was okay. My fear was that she may have just cuddled up with me in her sleep not realizing she was doing it, and that she'd wake up in the morning thinking I was trying to do something wrong while she was asleep.

We woke up really well rested, and nothing really seemed weird between us. Since then, we've been texting nonstop.

I really care about this girl, and I've had a romantic interest for two years now.

Something I'm worried about is telling her that I'm romantically interested. I still fear rejection, and I also don't want to tell her how I feel too soon and make an ass of myself.

Any advice or thoughts?



Submitted August 17, 2019 at 11:41PM

So this girl have known for about two years, and we have been spending time together a lot over the past 8 or so months. For the entire two years I've known her, I've had an interest in her.In the first few days of the semester, her boyfriend broke up with her. She had a rough few days after the break up, but she hasn't been getting upset about it anymore.The night her and her boyfriend broke up, I had been hanging out with her and our mutual friends. I was sitting on a chair next to her bed and she invited me to sit on her bed, then invited me to lay down next to her. (Obviously) I did, and I kept to myself without touching her because I didn't want to make any move while she was vulnerable. Our friends left to grab groceries, and I stayed with her to keep her company so she wasn't alone. We went for a drive and to grab fast food, and she shared a traumatic story that she hadn't shared with anyone else before--including her now ex-boyfriend. We went back to her apartment and spent time together, just talking and cutting up--trying to keep her mind on other things. Eventually we both just fell asleep, and while she was asleep, she ended up scooting closer to me and cuddling with me. I woke her up, and made sure it was okay. My fear was that she may have just cuddled up with me in her sleep not realizing she was doing it, and that she'd wake up in the morning thinking I was trying to do something wrong while she was asleep.We woke up really well rested, and nothing really seemed weird between us. Since then, we've been texting nonstop.I really care about this girl, and I've had a romantic interest for two years now.Something I'm worried about is telling her that I'm romantically interested. I still fear rejection, and I also don't want to tell her how I feel too soon and make an ass of myself.Any advice or thoughts?
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