Me (F) and my brother want to have sex with each other - is there any world where it would be okay? (Serious)

This is something that's on my mind a lot right now, and I feel like I'm in need of some... advice? Insight? If this is the wrong subreddit to bring up the topic of incest, or if this post offends anyone, I'm sorry in advance. And sorry for my possibly weird english, I'm not a native speaker.

My (older) brother and I have been talking about sleeping with each other recently. I'm in my late teens, he's in his early 20s. I'm moving in with him in September to make my life easier (school, commute, stuff like that), and the idea of some sort of "siblings with benefits" relationship got itself into our heads.

It came up a few months ago as a joke, like with a meme one of us texted at the other, aaand it kinda snowballed from there. Now we talk about it a lot, and we're seriously considering giving it a try, but we're not entirely sure about it. We know it's supposed to be "wrong" but I can't really see why it would be wrong.

We grew up really close, and our relationship was always very open and honest. We never had a problem discussing sexual stuff either. Back when I started having sex, he was the one I could always turn to when I needed help or advice or a word of encouragement. We've always been comfortable around each other, both emotionally and physically, so it wouldn't feel so weird to take things a step further. Since we started talking about sleeping with each other, and as the jokes turned into serious conversations, we learned that we actually have similar sex drive, kinks, etc. And we obviously find each other attractive.

On the other hand, it creeps us out both a little bit. As you can imagine. It's an obvious taboo, and while it's not illegal where we live, it is still frowned upon and regarded as heavy deviancy. We're weirded out and conflicted by this situation, while being turned on by it. It's a strange feeling.

Obviously, we would keep it a secret. We're both single, we're both consenting, I'm on birth control - it just feels like a "victimless crime". Who on earth would we hurt by doing it?

I'm just rambling at this point, so I'll just stop. What do you guys think? I'm not necessarily here to justify going for it, I'm honestly interested in what you'd do in my situation. Please help me... I guess?



Submitted August 22, 2019 at 12:26AM

This is something that's on my mind a lot right now, and I feel like I'm in need of some... advice? Insight? If this is the wrong subreddit to bring up the topic of incest, or if this post offends anyone, I'm sorry in advance. And sorry for my possibly weird english, I'm not a native speaker.My (older) brother and I have been talking about sleeping with each other recently. I'm in my late teens, he's in his early 20s. I'm moving in with him in September to make my life easier (school, commute, stuff like that), and the idea of some sort of "siblings with benefits" relationship got itself into our heads.It came up a few months ago as a joke, like with a meme one of us texted at the other, aaand it kinda snowballed from there. Now we talk about it a lot, and we're seriously considering giving it a try, but we're not entirely sure about it. We know it's supposed to be "wrong" but I can't really see why it would be wrong.We grew up really close, and our relationship was always very open and honest. We never had a problem discussing sexual stuff either. Back when I started having sex, he was the one I could always turn to when I needed help or advice or a word of encouragement. We've always been comfortable around each other, both emotionally and physically, so it wouldn't feel so weird to take things a step further. Since we started talking about sleeping with each other, and as the jokes turned into serious conversations, we learned that we actually have similar sex drive, kinks, etc. And we obviously find each other attractive.On the other hand, it creeps us out both a little bit. As you can imagine. It's an obvious taboo, and while it's not illegal where we live, it is still frowned upon and regarded as heavy deviancy. We're weirded out and conflicted by this situation, while being turned on by it. It's a strange feeling.Obviously, we would keep it a secret. We're both single, we're both consenting, I'm on birth control - it just feels like a "victimless crime". Who on earth would we hurt by doing it?I'm just rambling at this point, so I'll just stop. What do you guys think? I'm not necessarily here to justify going for it, I'm honestly interested in what you'd do in my situation. Please help me... I guess?
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