I don't have the energy to keep up with my(M24) GF's(F24) sex drive.

As the tittle says, I simply don't have enough gas in my tank to keep up with gf.

We have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning we had sex constantly, all day every day that we spent together. Well since late July of this year we have been having sex almost as much as we did when we first got together. She regularly wakes me up for sex before she gets ready, almost every time I get home from work she wants to have sex, and a few times she has woken me up during the middle of the night to fuck. On the weekends it isn't as big a deal since we both can sleep in and all that, but even then we will go 4-5 times in a day.

I love my girlfriend. I love having sex with her. Problem is I don't have the energy to supply her demand. I work a physically demanding job, I lift weights and run multiple times a week, and I do my best to maintain a social life with a few friends. She works full time, exercises, and has her own hobbies so I don't even know how she has the energy to want it so much.

I've only ever had sex with her, and she has, for lack of a better word, "trained" me to fuck her the way she likes. That being fast and rough. Naturally this is physically demanding in and of itself. I don't know how to do it any other way though. Even though I am tired I still want to satisfy her. She took my virginity at 21, so in my head any opportunity for sex is an opportunity that must be taken. For the first time yesterday I wasn't able to finish, and I was legitimately struggling to perform and keep any kind of pace or rhythm.

Obviously, she noticed that I was unable to finish, but I told I was just spent from so much 'business.' I don't know how to broach this subject with her without it seeming like I'm tired of having sex with her, or that I don't find her attractive, or any number of negative ways it could lead. I have half-heartedly mentioned that I'm being worn out and we should pace ourselves, but she somehow with her female mind magic turned that into us having sex yet again.

Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. I will restate, I love my girlfriend and I love having sex with her. I'm not the best at communicating my feelings and thoughts into articulate words, so I figured I would see what help reddit may have for me.



Submitted August 22, 2019 at 12:22AM

As the tittle says, I simply don't have enough gas in my tank to keep up with gf.We have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning we had sex constantly, all day every day that we spent together. Well since late July of this year we have been having sex almost as much as we did when we first got together. She regularly wakes me up for sex before she gets ready, almost every time I get home from work she wants to have sex, and a few times she has woken me up during the middle of the night to fuck. On the weekends it isn't as big a deal since we both can sleep in and all that, but even then we will go 4-5 times in a day.I love my girlfriend. I love having sex with her. Problem is I don't have the energy to supply her demand. I work a physically demanding job, I lift weights and run multiple times a week, and I do my best to maintain a social life with a few friends. She works full time, exercises, and has her own hobbies so I don't even know how she has the energy to want it so much.I've only ever had sex with her, and she has, for lack of a better word, "trained" me to fuck her the way she likes. That being fast and rough. Naturally this is physically demanding in and of itself. I don't know how to do it any other way though. Even though I am tired I still want to satisfy her. She took my virginity at 21, so in my head any opportunity for sex is an opportunity that must be taken. For the first time yesterday I wasn't able to finish, and I was legitimately struggling to perform and keep any kind of pace or rhythm.Obviously, she noticed that I was unable to finish, but I told I was just spent from so much 'business.' I don't know how to broach this subject with her without it seeming like I'm tired of having sex with her, or that I don't find her attractive, or any number of negative ways it could lead. I have half-heartedly mentioned that I'm being worn out and we should pace ourselves, but she somehow with her female mind magic turned that into us having sex yet again.Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. I will restate, I love my girlfriend and I love having sex with her. I'm not the best at communicating my feelings and thoughts into articulate words, so I figured I would see what help reddit may have for me.
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