Girl I was Talking to Told me she wasn’t Ready for a Relationship

as you can read from the title, this girl i was talking to told me that she wasn’t ready for a relationship. im going to give you as much relevant details as possible and hopefully you guys can tell me if you think this was just a way to let me down easy or she genuinely isn’t ready for a relationship.

first off i think it’s pretty relevant that i say she is my coworker. yes, i know im dumb, but i don’t see myself at this job for very long, so i went with it.

so i’ve worked with her for a couple of months and she always said hi to me and would be excited whenever we worked together. i don’t think she meant to make it obvious that she liked me because she had a boyfriend at the time, but i could definitely tell she had something for me. ive always thought she was very cute, but i really didn’t want anything with her, because like i said she had a boyfriend and we work together, so i didn’t want to make things weird. one night while at work, she added me on snapchat. i knew that a couple weeks earlier she and her boyfriend had broke up. i knew this because some of my friends knew her boyfriend. so i added her back on snapchat and she immediately started a conversation and we started talking for a couple days as what i thought was just friends. i’m not sure how, but we started talking romantically after that and we started facetiming every night. it was going great. we had a lot in common and i definitely fell in love with her even though i really didn’t mean to. she told me how sweet of a guy i was and how i treated her the best out of any guy she’s ever been with and pretty much just told me how much she appreciated me. that made me so happy knowing this, words can’t even describe it. from that point on i 100% thought she was “the one”.

so after talking for a couple of weeks she kept telling me how bad she wanted to hang out and how much she missed me (which was a bit weird because we never hung out outside of work) but we found a day that worked out for both of us and we hung out. nothing really exciting happened, we were both kinda shy but it was to be expected. i still had a good time though. a couple hours after we hung out, we were just texting like usually and i told her how happy she made me and how much i appreciated her. she then typed a paragraph saying how perfect of a guy i am, but she just isn’t ready for a relationship and hanging out with me made her realize that she wasn’t over her ex and all that “it’s not you, it’s me” stuff. she also told me that maybe she would want something in the future.(why “maybe”? why not “i definitely want something in the future”?) i was initially shocked and confused and i told her “wow i really don’t know what to say right now. i’m so confused” she said she was so sorry she was doing this to me and she hoped we could still be friends and with all the emotions going through my head i just left her on opened and left it at that. i wasn’t even sad i was just shocked. now i’m definitely a little sad and left with a empty feeling in my stomach.

the next day she texted me like nothing happened and i just left her on opened which i now know that was a bad decision as i should’ve at least told her i’m really not ready to talk to her about this. we also worked together the next day and she completely avoided me and didn’t say a word to me. the next morning (i know this was dumb as i wasn’t even close to being ready to talk to her) texted her and asked her if she wanted to talk about the other night and told her we need to stop being awkward at work. that whole conversation went nowhere and it was a waste of time, but since then (roughly 3 weeks ago) we haven’t talked once and we have been avoiding each other at work.

i’m sorry, i think i might have gone a little too much into detail but can anyone tell me their opinion on whether you think she’s telling the truth about it or not and what i should do from here. i’ve asked family and friends and it’s been mixed opinions, so i figured most of you guys would at least have more experience in this type of stuff so you would know what to do.

Submitted January 10, 2022 at 12:13AM

as you can read from the title, this girl i was talking to told me that she wasn’t ready for a relationship. im going to give you as much relevant details as possible and hopefully you guys can tell me if you think this was just a way to let me down easy or she genuinely isn’t ready for a relationship.first off i think it’s pretty relevant that i say she is my coworker. yes, i know im dumb, but i don’t see myself at this job for very long, so i went with it.so i’ve worked with her for a couple of months and she always said hi to me and would be excited whenever we worked together. i don’t think she meant to make it obvious that she liked me because she had a boyfriend at the time, but i could definitely tell she had something for me. ive always thought she was very cute, but i really didn’t want anything with her, because like i said she had a boyfriend and we work together, so i didn’t want to make things weird. one night while at work, she added me on snapchat. i knew that a couple weeks earlier she and her boyfriend had broke up. i knew this because some of my friends knew her boyfriend. so i added her back on snapchat and she immediately started a conversation and we started talking for a couple days as what i thought was just friends. i’m not sure how, but we started talking romantically after that and we started facetiming every night. it was going great. we had a lot in common and i definitely fell in love with her even though i really didn’t mean to. she told me how sweet of a guy i was and how i treated her the best out of any guy she’s ever been with and pretty much just told me how much she appreciated me. that made me so happy knowing this, words can’t even describe it. from that point on i 100% thought she was “the one”.so after talking for a couple of weeks she kept telling me how bad she wanted to hang out and how much she missed me (which was a bit weird because we never hung out outside of work) but we found a day that worked out for both of us and we hung out. nothing really exciting happened, we were both kinda shy but it was to be expected. i still had a good time though. a couple hours after we hung out, we were just texting like usually and i told her how happy she made me and how much i appreciated her. she then typed a paragraph saying how perfect of a guy i am, but she just isn’t ready for a relationship and hanging out with me made her realize that she wasn’t over her ex and all that “it’s not you, it’s me” stuff. she also told me that maybe she would want something in the future.(why “maybe”? why not “i definitely want something in the future”?) i was initially shocked and confused and i told her “wow i really don’t know what to say right now. i’m so confused” she said she was so sorry she was doing this to me and she hoped we could still be friends and with all the emotions going through my head i just left her on opened and left it at that. i wasn’t even sad i was just shocked. now i’m definitely a little sad and left with a empty feeling in my stomach.the next day she texted me like nothing happened and i just left her on opened which i now know that was a bad decision as i should’ve at least told her i’m really not ready to talk to her about this. we also worked together the next day and she completely avoided me and didn’t say a word to me. the next morning (i know this was dumb as i wasn’t even close to being ready to talk to her) texted her and asked her if she wanted to talk about the other night and told her we need to stop being awkward at work. that whole conversation went nowhere and it was a waste of time, but since then (roughly 3 weeks ago) we haven’t talked once and we have been avoiding each other at work.i’m sorry, i think i might have gone a little too much into detail but can anyone tell me their opinion on whether you think she’s telling the truth about it or not and what i should do from here. i’ve asked family and friends and it’s been mixed opinions, so i figured most of you guys would at least have more experience in this type of stuff so you would know what to do.