How do I stop being needy/dependent?

I (24F) have a (27M) boyfriend and we have been dating for maybe 6 months. Everything is really good between us. We see each other fairly regularly (at least a few minutes everyday at work). I honestly feel like I am being dependent and clingy. He texts me regularly and calls me randomly throughout the day which I adore. There is no sense of being ignored or not being wanted. But the time that we do not spend together (days off of work/he’s got other things going on) I consistently find myself in a pretty major depressive slump. It hurts my feelings that he doesn’t want to spend every waking moment with me. For instance, this weekend he slept most of Friday and the day today. His back was hurting him so he took his medication which usually knocks him out pretty good. I could not help but stay up all night wishing he was talking to me. When he got up around 2pm, he played video games with me for 3 hours which was really fun and I enjoyed talking to him. Then he told me that he was leaving tonight to go to his parents place, and I just got super sad. Because Okay that means there’s no chance of us seeing eachother this weekend. There’s a weird part of me that wishes his first instinct would always be to invite me over to stay the night. I know that he’s a grown person and he’s got other things to do and it’s not like he’s partying or anything he’s literally gonna go hang out with his dad which is so sweet. I just feel so jealous and needy and in turn I feel awful about it. I know plenty of people don’t see their SO nearly as often as I do. I just want so much of his attention. I think it’s because my last relationship moved suuuuper quickly and this one going at a “normal” pace of making me insecure. I feel horrible about the way I feel because he is super good to me. I know that it’s a “me” problem and I just don’t know how to make that insecurity go away.

Submitted December 05, 2021 at 12:09AM

I (24F) have a (27M) boyfriend and we have been dating for maybe 6 months. Everything is really good between us. We see each other fairly regularly (at least a few minutes everyday at work). I honestly feel like I am being dependent and clingy. He texts me regularly and calls me randomly throughout the day which I adore. There is no sense of being ignored or not being wanted. But the time that we do not spend together (days off of work/he’s got other things going on) I consistently find myself in a pretty major depressive slump. It hurts my feelings that he doesn’t want to spend every waking moment with me. For instance, this weekend he slept most of Friday and the day today. His back was hurting him so he took his medication which usually knocks him out pretty good. I could not help but stay up all night wishing he was talking to me. When he got up around 2pm, he played video games with me for 3 hours which was really fun and I enjoyed talking to him. Then he told me that he was leaving tonight to go to his parents place, and I just got super sad. Because Okay that means there’s no chance of us seeing eachother this weekend. There’s a weird part of me that wishes his first instinct would always be to invite me over to stay the night. I know that he’s a grown person and he’s got other things to do and it’s not like he’s partying or anything he’s literally gonna go hang out with his dad which is so sweet. I just feel so jealous and needy and in turn I feel awful about it. I know plenty of people don’t see their SO nearly as often as I do. I just want so much of his attention. I think it’s because my last relationship moved suuuuper quickly and this one going at a “normal” pace of making me insecure. I feel horrible about the way I feel because he is super good to me. I know that it’s a “me” problem and I just don’t know how to make that insecurity go away.