I've never seen my girlfriend naked, she only gives me handjobs (with gloves on)

Hi I [21M] am here to post about something that confuses me about my girlfriend [F42]

She is my first partner and to be honest I'm a complete newbie to relationships. I've been with her for almost a year now. I originally thought we'd progress to sex, but it seems to have never got that far.

She really enjoys my company. Often she tells me how much she is thankful to have me in her life. We go out together and have a lot of common interests. She is my best friend. We kiss and cuddle, we support each other emotionally. There is one thing that isn't great though... Sex.

Throughout our relationship she has NEVER taken her clothes off with me. She has always been into wearing clothing that completely covers up her body. Long trousers, long sleeve tops / blouses. She dresses incredibly sexy though. Satin shirts, long black trousers. She has an amazing body and the way she dresses always complements that. I always give her compliments on how beautiful her body is and tell her I like her clothes.

She has never taken her clothes off around me though. I have stripped naked for her many times always when she asks. We'll cuddle, kiss, she'll touch me and make me feel good. I will touch her through her clothes, but she doesn't want to ever take her clothes off.

I've asked her in the past if she wants sex, she always say no. She also doesn't want to give blowjobs. The only thing she does for me is handjobs, which she says she really enjoys giving. Whenever she gives me a handjob though she insists on wearing rubber gloves. Don't get me wrong handjobs are amazing, but I wonder what real sex is like. Rubber gloves seem to lack intimacy. I don't know what another persons bare hand would feel like on my penis. I feel like I should know this by the age of 21.

Her excuse for wearing gloves during handjobs is that she doesn't want to get ejaculate on her hands. I respect that, but I wonder if she thinks I'm dirty or something. I feel guilty for asking for more from her. Surely if she wanted sex she'd ask me, so I feel guilty even bringing it up. I dont want to pressure her or make her feel uncomfortable.

I guess I need other peoples incite. Handjobs are nice and I'm not meaning to sound ungrateful, but I feel like I'm missing out on what more there is to sex. I suppose sex with a condom would be no different to a handjob from a gloved hand.

What do you guys think?



Submitted November 14, 2021 at 11:42PM

Hi I [21M] am here to post about something that confuses me about my girlfriend [F42]She is my first partner and to be honest I'm a complete newbie to relationships. I've been with her for almost a year now. I originally thought we'd progress to sex, but it seems to have never got that far.She really enjoys my company. Often she tells me how much she is thankful to have me in her life. We go out together and have a lot of common interests. She is my best friend. We kiss and cuddle, we support each other emotionally. There is one thing that isn't great though... Sex.Throughout our relationship she has NEVER taken her clothes off with me. She has always been into wearing clothing that completely covers up her body. Long trousers, long sleeve tops / blouses. She dresses incredibly sexy though. Satin shirts, long black trousers. She has an amazing body and the way she dresses always complements that. I always give her compliments on how beautiful her body is and tell her I like her clothes.She has never taken her clothes off around me though. I have stripped naked for her many times always when she asks. We'll cuddle, kiss, she'll touch me and make me feel good. I will touch her through her clothes, but she doesn't want to ever take her clothes off.I've asked her in the past if she wants sex, she always say no. She also doesn't want to give blowjobs. The only thing she does for me is handjobs, which she says she really enjoys giving. Whenever she gives me a handjob though she insists on wearing rubber gloves. Don't get me wrong handjobs are amazing, but I wonder what real sex is like. Rubber gloves seem to lack intimacy. I don't know what another persons bare hand would feel like on my penis. I feel like I should know this by the age of 21.Her excuse for wearing gloves during handjobs is that she doesn't want to get ejaculate on her hands. I respect that, but I wonder if she thinks I'm dirty or something. I feel guilty for asking for more from her. Surely if she wanted sex she'd ask me, so I feel guilty even bringing it up. I dont want to pressure her or make her feel uncomfortable.I guess I need other peoples incite. Handjobs are nice and I'm not meaning to sound ungrateful, but I feel like I'm missing out on what more there is to sex. I suppose sex with a condom would be no different to a handjob from a gloved hand.What do you guys think?
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