How can I limit my insecurities?

Let me tell you. Dating long distance is hard. I, a 30+ male and her, 30 female are dating about 2400 miles apart. Our relationship was just starting the flourish before I took a new job in a new state and she went away for business in another. We were considering the option of her moving here, but a better job opportunity arose for her in California, where she was away on business. She was hesitant to tell me, because she wanted to consider my feelings in this matter, but I’m not selfish. It’s important that she takes a good opportunity, right?

Well why does it feel like I’m losing her? We talk all the time, be it text, calls or FaceTime, but with all her stress I’m starting to see her more withdrawn. It can’t e easy living in a one bedroom house with her family member.

I often find myself creating these ideas that she’ll meet some other man there. Her family member is a party person, which is her normal character, however she has been going out dancing with them more recently and staying out all night with them. When I say them, I mean her family. She’s an absolutely gorgeous woman who’s very successful and hard working. You can imagine why I’d have these fears, can’t you? Last night I had a nightmare that she met someone. It’s like I’m stressing so much that I’m letting it crawl into my head at night?

How do I overcome these insecurities? This isn’t like me, at all. I wish here a good, fun and safe time every time that she goes out and I’m very supportive of her, but why do I feel like I might lose her to another man? It’s terrifying to think that she might meet someone new while out partying at dance clubs.

Any help?

Post text: she just came to visit me a few days ago.

Submitted November 15, 2021 at 12:09AM

Let me tell you. Dating long distance is hard. I, a 30+ male and her, 30 female are dating about 2400 miles apart. Our relationship was just starting the flourish before I took a new job in a new state and she went away for business in another. We were considering the option of her moving here, but a better job opportunity arose for her in California, where she was away on business. She was hesitant to tell me, because she wanted to consider my feelings in this matter, but I’m not selfish. It’s important that she takes a good opportunity, right?Well why does it feel like I’m losing her? We talk all the time, be it text, calls or FaceTime, but with all her stress I’m starting to see her more withdrawn. It can’t e easy living in a one bedroom house with her family member.I often find myself creating these ideas that she’ll meet some other man there. Her family member is a party person, which is her normal character, however she has been going out dancing with them more recently and staying out all night with them. When I say them, I mean her family. She’s an absolutely gorgeous woman who’s very successful and hard working. You can imagine why I’d have these fears, can’t you? Last night I had a nightmare that she met someone. It’s like I’m stressing so much that I’m letting it crawl into my head at night?How do I overcome these insecurities? This isn’t like me, at all. I wish here a good, fun and safe time every time that she goes out and I’m very supportive of her, but why do I feel like I might lose her to another man? It’s terrifying to think that she might meet someone new while out partying at dance clubs.Any help?Post text: she just came to visit me a few days ago.