Giving up hope - 32M

Title says it really. I really am at a total loss for where to start dating or finding someone I am compatible with. I find myself with fewer options than ever.

The past 3 years have been a downward slope for me. I used to have a good job in wealth management, groups of friends i saw regularly and reasonable social life with travelling etc. Then I started losing friends as they paired off and dissapeared into their gfs lives, ditching our friend groups (happened to 4 of my friends), my social life wittled down to maybe a pub trip once every 2 months and lockdowm has destroyed what was left.

Lockdown also cost me my 10 year job which was a social outlet and i now work from home by myself.

On top of this my mother passed away last year from cancer and i no longer hear much from that side of the family.

I now work by myself, live alone and the only people i see are my brothers and sometimes my dad. With a total of say 2 visits a week. I am pretty much alone all of the time.

To go from where I was to having very very little if anything is really depressing and hurtsz especially those friends who ditched one by one.

Where do i even go from here when it comes to dating? I live in a place with little options for social clubs unless i want to watercolour with 50 yr olds. There is very little night life or social life (UK town) I have no social groups and no emotional support from anywhere and giving up on this feels like the healthiest option.

I know comments will be along the lines of 'get therapy' - I'm not depressed, or 'join social events and clubs' - i have done this over many years and commiting to some can be a time sink that leads to nothingz it has never worked. I guess the fact my connections all disappearing has put the nail in the coffin. I am financially very comfortable and highly qualified have travelled extensivel, exercise daily and am not bad looking, so maybe i have some chance.

Just want new ideas honestly.

Submitted November 27, 2021 at 01:14AM

Title says it really. I really am at a total loss for where to start dating or finding someone I am compatible with. I find myself with fewer options than ever.The past 3 years have been a downward slope for me. I used to have a good job in wealth management, groups of friends i saw regularly and reasonable social life with travelling etc. Then I started losing friends as they paired off and dissapeared into their gfs lives, ditching our friend groups (happened to 4 of my friends), my social life wittled down to maybe a pub trip once every 2 months and lockdowm has destroyed what was left.Lockdown also cost me my 10 year job which was a social outlet and i now work from home by myself.On top of this my mother passed away last year from cancer and i no longer hear much from that side of the family.I now work by myself, live alone and the only people i see are my brothers and sometimes my dad. With a total of say 2 visits a week. I am pretty much alone all of the time.To go from where I was to having very very little if anything is really depressing and hurtsz especially those friends who ditched one by one.Where do i even go from here when it comes to dating? I live in a place with little options for social clubs unless i want to watercolour with 50 yr olds. There is very little night life or social life (UK town) I have no social groups and no emotional support from anywhere and giving up on this feels like the healthiest option.I know comments will be along the lines of 'get therapy' - I'm not depressed, or 'join social events and clubs' - i have done this over many years and commiting to some can be a time sink that leads to nothingz it has never worked. I guess the fact my connections all disappearing has put the nail in the coffin. I am financially very comfortable and highly qualified have travelled extensivel, exercise daily and am not bad looking, so maybe i have some chance.Just want new ideas honestly.