Should I send this text?

So, a while back, a girl I had been hanging out with a ton sort of ghosted me for a week. After of a week of me being the one to initiate conversations and such via text, she sent me a long paragraph that indicated she wasn’t in the right headspace for a relationship (I hadn’t made a move yet, she preempted it). She said she was going through a lot of stuff with school (we go to college together) and had over committed herself to extra curriculars. I told her I was hurt but understood. We kept hanging out and a few weeks later I mentioned to her that I noticed her current major was making her miserable. We talked for a few hours about majors and her life. During this conversation, she decides that the right move for her is to switch majors to a similar major that she will like more (she says she made this decision because of what I said((a good thing))), and “focus on doing more things for herself”. She also mentions that preemptively denying me was something “she didn’t do for herself”, it was because she was over-committed and unhappy with her school situation/ couldn’t add a relationship to everything she was already dealing with. I didn’t push at that moment but it led me to believe that she did see me as someone who could become more than a friend. Now, a few weeks later, she seems happier but I keep over analyzing texts and conversations. I feel like, for my mental health, I should ask for clarity. I’d like to send something like this. Let me know what you think:

“just need to come out and say this for my mental health. I heard you loud and clear when you told me you were not in the headspace for a relationship. However, the night we spent talking about you and your major a few weeks ago, when you mentioned reasons relating to why you sort of pre-rejected me before I had really made a move, it made me think that there was a chance you at least kind of saw me that way. I just need to know wether you ever saw me as something that could have been more than a friend or not. I need to be able to start to move on (hopefully while maintaining our friendship) if you are not into me at all or wether I just need to give you time/space. Either way, I get it. I am the type of person who can build things up in my head, and if that is what’s happening here, I apologize. Maybe I’m just inept at reading signals.”

Submitted October 20, 2021 at 11:48PM

So, a while back, a girl I had been hanging out with a ton sort of ghosted me for a week. After of a week of me being the one to initiate conversations and such via text, she sent me a long paragraph that indicated she wasn’t in the right headspace for a relationship (I hadn’t made a move yet, she preempted it). She said she was going through a lot of stuff with school (we go to college together) and had over committed herself to extra curriculars. I told her I was hurt but understood. We kept hanging out and a few weeks later I mentioned to her that I noticed her current major was making her miserable. We talked for a few hours about majors and her life. During this conversation, she decides that the right move for her is to switch majors to a similar major that she will like more (she says she made this decision because of what I said((a good thing))), and “focus on doing more things for herself”. She also mentions that preemptively denying me was something “she didn’t do for herself”, it was because she was over-committed and unhappy with her school situation/ couldn’t add a relationship to everything she was already dealing with. I didn’t push at that moment but it led me to believe that she did see me as someone who could become more than a friend. Now, a few weeks later, she seems happier but I keep over analyzing texts and conversations. I feel like, for my mental health, I should ask for clarity. I’d like to send something like this. Let me know what you think:“just need to come out and say this for my mental health. I heard you loud and clear when you told me you were not in the headspace for a relationship. However, the night we spent talking about you and your major a few weeks ago, when you mentioned reasons relating to why you sort of pre-rejected me before I had really made a move, it made me think that there was a chance you at least kind of saw me that way. I just need to know wether you ever saw me as something that could have been more than a friend or not. I need to be able to start to move on (hopefully while maintaining our friendship) if you are not into me at all or wether I just need to give you time/space. Either way, I get it. I am the type of person who can build things up in my head, and if that is what’s happening here, I apologize. Maybe I’m just inept at reading signals.”