She's tired? An escape?

We're both in our late 20's and I would say that she's an introverted type girl/nerdy and we met online for over two months and things were going great!

Our first 1-hour date went quite well and she even initiated the second date shortly after our first date. (Which surprised me)

On our second date, everything seemed to be going ok, but towards the 2nd-3rd hour, she said she's tired and wanted to go home. She seemed kinda annoyed but always had a smile towards me. I thought to myself, yeah, maybe we spent together a bit too long and tried to brush it off.

(I noticed her texting started to taking much longer to respond)

Prior to our third date, she sent a text saying we can grab drinks after our date of mini golf since she'll be up all night and she cares for me with a kissy emoji. After we finished our game, I asked if she wanted to go grab some drinks and she hits me with the same "I think I'm going to head home, I'm tired"... I asked her if I can come along and she said "what! noooo" with a happily disgusted face and when I walked to her car, she hugged me and said bye and left.

Why would she leave so early when she told me she'll be off the entire night. (she work night shift) what does the "I'm tired" mean?

Keep in mind, I never did the typical push-pull, banter, sexual innuendo. I mainly focused on physical attraction (hugging, shoulder touching, knee touch, smiling, eye look) I was mainly acting like a gentleman towards her so she can feel comfortable around me and kept our conversation about learning about one another. All our dates were mainly gaming activities such as bowling, mini-golf, arcade. Maybe this wasn't the best idea since we never had alone time together. She didn't give off the flirty behavior, it felt more like a friend/coworker style.

I don't know what to text back now. I like this girl a lot because of her personality and similar interest. I'm not great at conversations, but I do my best. When I ask open-end questions, she doesn't seem to talk a lot.



Submitted October 12, 2021 at 12:07AM

We're both in our late 20's and I would say that she's an introverted type girl/nerdy and we met online for over two months and things were going great!Our first 1-hour date went quite well and she even initiated the second date shortly after our first date. (Which surprised me)On our second date, everything seemed to be going ok, but towards the 2nd-3rd hour, she said she's tired and wanted to go home. She seemed kinda annoyed but always had a smile towards me. I thought to myself, yeah, maybe we spent together a bit too long and tried to brush it off.(I noticed her texting started to taking much longer to respond)Prior to our third date, she sent a text saying we can grab drinks after our date of mini golf since she'll be up all night and she cares for me with a kissy emoji. After we finished our game, I asked if she wanted to go grab some drinks and she hits me with the same "I think I'm going to head home, I'm tired"... I asked her if I can come along and she said "what! noooo" with a happily disgusted face and when I walked to her car, she hugged me and said bye and left.Why would she leave so early when she told me she'll be off the entire night. (she work night shift) what does the "I'm tired" mean?Keep in mind, I never did the typical push-pull, banter, sexual innuendo. I mainly focused on physical attraction (hugging, shoulder touching, knee touch, smiling, eye look) I was mainly acting like a gentleman towards her so she can feel comfortable around me and kept our conversation about learning about one another. All our dates were mainly gaming activities such as bowling, mini-golf, arcade. Maybe this wasn't the best idea since we never had alone time together. She didn't give off the flirty behavior, it felt more like a friend/coworker style.I don't know what to text back now. I like this girl a lot because of her personality and similar interest. I'm not great at conversations, but I do my best. When I ask open-end questions, she doesn't seem to talk a lot.
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