Major sex regret

I am a woman in my 20s, recently, with a group of my closest friends we decided to have casual group sex just to have fun and see how it goes. We, myself included, had a lot of fun and laughs while it happened and there was no awkwardness whatsoever after we were done. It was really amazing how it changed nothing about our relationship and how we were able to approach it in a mature way and treat it as a learning experience. That being said, my regret appeared and started overwhelming me as soon as more people found out about this. It turned out that both me and all the other participants told at least a few people (mostly drunk, in a party setting) about what happened. One of them even told this story as an anecdote to our completely new friend group which made me spiral into anxiety since it made me feel like I no longer have a clean slate with them and that it will completely mess up my image from the get go. I just started experiencing guilt and regret regarding that experience I hadn’t felt before. I feel like everyone knows about this and probably judges me and thinks of me as a slut. I guess I just need some reassurance that having had that sexual experience doesn’t take away my value or that it really isn’t such a big deal. For some reason this being group sex and not just you average hookup is what makes me feel so ashamed. I’d appreciate some words of kindness and support and maybe some advice on how to deal with that kind of regret?



Submitted October 12, 2021 at 12:56AM

I am a woman in my 20s, recently, with a group of my closest friends we decided to have casual group sex just to have fun and see how it goes. We, myself included, had a lot of fun and laughs while it happened and there was no awkwardness whatsoever after we were done. It was really amazing how it changed nothing about our relationship and how we were able to approach it in a mature way and treat it as a learning experience. That being said, my regret appeared and started overwhelming me as soon as more people found out about this. It turned out that both me and all the other participants told at least a few people (mostly drunk, in a party setting) about what happened. One of them even told this story as an anecdote to our completely new friend group which made me spiral into anxiety since it made me feel like I no longer have a clean slate with them and that it will completely mess up my image from the get go. I just started experiencing guilt and regret regarding that experience I hadn’t felt before. I feel like everyone knows about this and probably judges me and thinks of me as a slut. I guess I just need some reassurance that having had that sexual experience doesn’t take away my value or that it really isn’t such a big deal. For some reason this being group sex and not just you average hookup is what makes me feel so ashamed. I’d appreciate some words of kindness and support and maybe some advice on how to deal with that kind of regret?
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