My boyfriend’s fapping is driving me nuts

Context: I’ve never had a problem with my partners masturbating before, then again none of my previous partners ever made me feel like they preferred to masturbate over me. Honestly, it’s a complete turn-off if my SO prefers to masturbate. I understand it’s convenient, good to yank one out before bed, prostate cancer prevention, sex drive maintenance, what have you. But my kink is to be desired and knowing my partner prefers fantasy over a real person completely turns me off. Specially when we fight over normal things like cleaning, cooking, and bills, he completely shuts off and doesn’t touch me. He says that fighting turns him off. Yo, long term relationships normally have disagreements over household responsibilities. Shutting people down and withdrawing affection after common disagreements breeds resentment, and why would you breed resentment over the person who’s making you orgasm? You gotta protect that shit. Orgasms are sacred.

I developed severe panic attacks every time he took 40 minutes showers after I discovered him on the phone using his secret Instagram with local strippers and prostitutes that he knew through his childhood best friend. He also would constantly add random women on Facebook and Instagram, that he had never met before, and would strike up casual conversation with them in their stories. When we broke up due to his secret Instagram, that he deleted, he moved back in and downloaded Tinder because I didn’t take him camping on my best friends birthday. He said he felt “alone” and wasn’t sure of getting back together…. He literally moved back in? How can you move back in and not be sure? After that, I discovered he made another Instagram that he BLOCKED me from while still living together that I later discovered that had racy pictures that I took of him. He was also verbally and physically abusive. He broke my door, my phone, his own phone, and my computer charger after fits of anger. (He was insufferable when he wasn’t high. Acted like a complete douche.)

Point is, that relationship was a disaster from the very beginning and it’s over/ Now, I want to know what I can do to prevent this. Am I a crazy insecure girlfriend who doesn’t allow her boyfriend to explore his sexuality outside of the relationship, like he claimed? Should I get with the times? Is masturbating everyday twice a day but once a month sex with your partner ok? I’m honestly not satisfied if that’s the norm. I’d rather not date at all than to have to put up with my SO looking for sexual gratification elsewhere. I have a super high sex drive. If it were up to me, we’d have sex everyday. He doesn’t need to look for deep throat videos when he knows I can deep throat him and make him cum in like 3 minutes. I legit learned how to twerk and ride dick specifically because he loved it. He said no other woman had ever satisfied him so much before. This is gonna sound pathetic but I even bought a fox tail anal plug, fox ears and cute lingerie to fulfill his weird ass kink. Dafuq my dude.

Is porn addiction a myth? I’m starting to believe porn completely warped his sense of what normal is, specially because his go to was Korean manhwas with pre-pubescent faced girls with massive disproportionate bodies. He grew up reading Naruto and supposedly, that’s what Kakashi was reading all day. It’s like Naruto normalized reading that shit constantly for him. Yo, if Kakashi wanted to fuck he fucking would, not read Jiraiya-sensei’s personal sex stories. Damn, I don’t wanna generalize but fucking hentai is fucking people up.

Masturbation sucks for me. Why do I have to live in a fantasy realm when I can whore out on real dick in the flesh? Orgasms are 10X better with another person. I legit don’t get why anyone would prefer to masturbate over fucking their partners. And if y’all aren’t attracted, get the fuck out. Like damn, we’re gonna become these disgusting wasted away flesh monsters. The time to fuck is now. Motorboat my double Ds while they’re still perky. Cum on my face before the jizz gets stuck in my jowls. Let me twerk on your dick before I have spinal stenosis. Damn. We’re slowly dying. Seize the day. Fuck while you still can.

Submitted October 08, 2021 at 11:59PM

Context: I’ve never had a problem with my partners masturbating before, then again none of my previous partners ever made me feel like they preferred to masturbate over me. Honestly, it’s a complete turn-off if my SO prefers to masturbate. I understand it’s convenient, good to yank one out before bed, prostate cancer prevention, sex drive maintenance, what have you. But my kink is to be desired and knowing my partner prefers fantasy over a real person completely turns me off. Specially when we fight over normal things like cleaning, cooking, and bills, he completely shuts off and doesn’t touch me. He says that fighting turns him off. Yo, long term relationships normally have disagreements over household responsibilities. Shutting people down and withdrawing affection after common disagreements breeds resentment, and why would you breed resentment over the person who’s making you orgasm? You gotta protect that shit. Orgasms are sacred.I developed severe panic attacks every time he took 40 minutes showers after I discovered him on the phone using his secret Instagram with local strippers and prostitutes that he knew through his childhood best friend. He also would constantly add random women on Facebook and Instagram, that he had never met before, and would strike up casual conversation with them in their stories. When we broke up due to his secret Instagram, that he deleted, he moved back in and downloaded Tinder because I didn’t take him camping on my best friends birthday. He said he felt “alone” and wasn’t sure of getting back together…. He literally moved back in? How can you move back in and not be sure? After that, I discovered he made another Instagram that he BLOCKED me from while still living together that I later discovered that had racy pictures that I took of him. He was also verbally and physically abusive. He broke my door, my phone, his own phone, and my computer charger after fits of anger. (He was insufferable when he wasn’t high. Acted like a complete douche.)Point is, that relationship was a disaster from the very beginning and it’s over/ Now, I want to know what I can do to prevent this. Am I a crazy insecure girlfriend who doesn’t allow her boyfriend to explore his sexuality outside of the relationship, like he claimed? Should I get with the times? Is masturbating everyday twice a day but once a month sex with your partner ok? I’m honestly not satisfied if that’s the norm. I’d rather not date at all than to have to put up with my SO looking for sexual gratification elsewhere. I have a super high sex drive. If it were up to me, we’d have sex everyday. He doesn’t need to look for deep throat videos when he knows I can deep throat him and make him cum in like 3 minutes. I legit learned how to twerk and ride dick specifically because he loved it. He said no other woman had ever satisfied him so much before. This is gonna sound pathetic but I even bought a fox tail anal plug, fox ears and cute lingerie to fulfill his weird ass kink. Dafuq my dude.Is porn addiction a myth? I’m starting to believe porn completely warped his sense of what normal is, specially because his go to was Korean manhwas with pre-pubescent faced girls with massive disproportionate bodies. He grew up reading Naruto and supposedly, that’s what Kakashi was reading all day. It’s like Naruto normalized reading that shit constantly for him. Yo, if Kakashi wanted to fuck he fucking would, not read Jiraiya-sensei’s personal sex stories. Damn, I don’t wanna generalize but fucking hentai is fucking people up.Masturbation sucks for me. Why do I have to live in a fantasy realm when I can whore out on real dick in the flesh? Orgasms are 10X better with another person. I legit don’t get why anyone would prefer to masturbate over fucking their partners. And if y’all aren’t attracted, get the fuck out. Like damn, we’re gonna become these disgusting wasted away flesh monsters. The time to fuck is now. Motorboat my double Ds while they’re still perky. Cum on my face before the jizz gets stuck in my jowls. Let me twerk on your dick before I have spinal stenosis. Damn. We’re slowly dying. Seize the day. Fuck while you still can.