Don’t know whether I should give up or keep going.

I(16M) like this girl(17F). First off I’m just gonna say I have no relationship experience I’ve only dated one girl and it only lasted a week (we rushed into things and we ended up not liking each other like we thought we did) but onto the present. So I’ve made some mistakes out of awkwardness and just don’t really understand how to work a relationship but I’m trying. So honestly I’m getting mixed signals from her kind of. We’ve known each other for a couple of months and I have some reasons to believe she likes me and I have reasons to think she doesn’t. First I’ll start off with the good things. A while ago she asked for my instagram, I catch her looking at me a lot, she usually laughs at my jokes, and I kinda seem to make her nervous (In a good way she seems shy around me). She also used to get very close to me when we walked together in the hallway (to the point where we would be touching). I would also say that she seems to be flirty with me sometimes (not as much anymore though). She seems to pay a lot of attention to me because one day she asked if I was mad and said that I had looked mad but I wasn’t that’s just my resting face. And another day she texted me when I got home and asked if I was mad at her, again I wasn’t mad just tired. Now onto the reasons I think she doesn’t like me. She doesn’t really talk to me first that much except for the times she asked me if I was mad and a couple of other times. She doesn’t seem to flirt with me much anymore. I catch her looking at me less than I used to (but I still do). She takes a bit long to reply to messages but I understand cause she works for a long time. That’s really it I just think things kinda just are slowly starting to end maybe. I’m not sure. Now onto the last thing which is the mistake I made. One day I saw her sitting alone at the lunch table so I went and sat with her and asked her why she was sitting alone and we talked about that for just a little bit and then I ran out of things to say so I left. And then later I came back and she said “so you basically called me lonely and then left me alone” so I sat with her for the rest of that lunch and a couple of other days too. She said I made her depressed and then she said she was just joking and then she said she hated me (I think that was also a joke because she would still talk to me after that). But idk if I messed up to bad or if things just kind of fizzled out. I just am struggling to make the decision to quit or not and need some advice as to whether I should quit or keep going.

TLDR: I(16M) am getting mixed signals from this girl (17F) and I also kinda made a mistake. I don’t know whether I should quit pursuing her or not.

Submitted October 30, 2021 at 12:06AM

I(16M) like this girl(17F). First off I’m just gonna say I have no relationship experience I’ve only dated one girl and it only lasted a week (we rushed into things and we ended up not liking each other like we thought we did) but onto the present. So I’ve made some mistakes out of awkwardness and just don’t really understand how to work a relationship but I’m trying. So honestly I’m getting mixed signals from her kind of. We’ve known each other for a couple of months and I have some reasons to believe she likes me and I have reasons to think she doesn’t. First I’ll start off with the good things. A while ago she asked for my instagram, I catch her looking at me a lot, she usually laughs at my jokes, and I kinda seem to make her nervous (In a good way she seems shy around me). She also used to get very close to me when we walked together in the hallway (to the point where we would be touching). I would also say that she seems to be flirty with me sometimes (not as much anymore though). She seems to pay a lot of attention to me because one day she asked if I was mad and said that I had looked mad but I wasn’t that’s just my resting face. And another day she texted me when I got home and asked if I was mad at her, again I wasn’t mad just tired. Now onto the reasons I think she doesn’t like me. She doesn’t really talk to me first that much except for the times she asked me if I was mad and a couple of other times. She doesn’t seem to flirt with me much anymore. I catch her looking at me less than I used to (but I still do). She takes a bit long to reply to messages but I understand cause she works for a long time. That’s really it I just think things kinda just are slowly starting to end maybe. I’m not sure. Now onto the last thing which is the mistake I made. One day I saw her sitting alone at the lunch table so I went and sat with her and asked her why she was sitting alone and we talked about that for just a little bit and then I ran out of things to say so I left. And then later I came back and she said “so you basically called me lonely and then left me alone” so I sat with her for the rest of that lunch and a couple of other days too. She said I made her depressed and then she said she was just joking and then she said she hated me (I think that was also a joke because she would still talk to me after that). But idk if I messed up to bad or if things just kind of fizzled out. I just am struggling to make the decision to quit or not and need some advice as to whether I should quit or keep going.TLDR: I(16M) am getting mixed signals from this girl (17F) and I also kinda made a mistake. I don’t know whether I should quit pursuing her or not.