Things felt kind of weird during 4th date

I (23f) met a guy (25m) on a dating app about 3 weeks ago. We had a really quick but funny chat and decided to meet up. In about 2 weeks we have been on 4 dates, the 4th one being today. I was the one who initiated this one and we watched a movie at his. He ordered and paid for takeout for us.

When I first got there he was watching a football match and didn’t turn it off and was giving me and the game 50/50 attention. This upset me cause it was the 4th date, and he was focusing on a game for 30 min. For a while after he was also a bit bitchy with his responses, and it all just gave me a bad gut feeling. However, we started watching the movie and cuddled (which we didn’t do before) and we were joking a lot. That’s when it started becoming fun again. We eventually slept together (not first time) and it was way better this time, he said several times it was really good. I mentioned previously that I had an early morning meeting, and in bed he said that maybe it would be best if i didn’t stay over when we were talking about it. Previously he’s insisted on me staying over. I know he has work but he always says it’s flexible. Since I suggested the last two dates, I told him to text me if he wanted to hang out again. He said he would but noting more concrete.

I guess I am posting this because it’s the middle of the night and I kinda feel weird after this date. Is it a bad sign he wasn’t paying me attention when I first came and had kinda bitchy replies? Does it mean he is annoyed by me? Also the fact that he didn’t think I should stay. I don’t really know if I’m over thinking it, I guess I just want some reassurance and advice to see if I should be expecting the text to hang out or if he has been throwing signs at me?



Submitted October 12, 2020 at 12:16AM

I (23f) met a guy (25m) on a dating app about 3 weeks ago. We had a really quick but funny chat and decided to meet up. In about 2 weeks we have been on 4 dates, the 4th one being today. I was the one who initiated this one and we watched a movie at his. He ordered and paid for takeout for us.When I first got there he was watching a football match and didn’t turn it off and was giving me and the game 50/50 attention. This upset me cause it was the 4th date, and he was focusing on a game for 30 min. For a while after he was also a bit bitchy with his responses, and it all just gave me a bad gut feeling. However, we started watching the movie and cuddled (which we didn’t do before) and we were joking a lot. That’s when it started becoming fun again. We eventually slept together (not first time) and it was way better this time, he said several times it was really good. I mentioned previously that I had an early morning meeting, and in bed he said that maybe it would be best if i didn’t stay over when we were talking about it. Previously he’s insisted on me staying over. I know he has work but he always says it’s flexible. Since I suggested the last two dates, I told him to text me if he wanted to hang out again. He said he would but noting more concrete.I guess I am posting this because it’s the middle of the night and I kinda feel weird after this date. Is it a bad sign he wasn’t paying me attention when I first came and had kinda bitchy replies? Does it mean he is annoyed by me? Also the fact that he didn’t think I should stay. I don’t really know if I’m over thinking it, I guess I just want some reassurance and advice to see if I should be expecting the text to hang out or if he has been throwing signs at me?
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