Imagine being told to try harder to date women because you are at a disadvantage?

So I don't online date because I struggle on those apps. I post quality pictures. Good bio but never any luck. I'm not an ugly guy I'm just short. I'm a realist and I know I'm at a huge disadvantage because of my height. Recently I was told by a girl you need to try a thousand times harder to get a girl. She didn't mean it with mal intent. She was trying to be inspirational I guess.

In my head, I was like f**k that bs. Not worth it. I'm not going to go above and beyond because people don't like the way I look in regards to something I can't change about myself. Clearly, I don't have a chance online and in-person it seems like you only meet people at bars. I don't like going to bars and clubs. I'm in my mid-twenties and going out like that isn't exciting anymore. What I do is I Box and do Kyokushin Karate. So I go to two different gyms multiple times a week. No one my age that's a girl so it's frustrating. I live in America and from my understanding, these are the worst type of people because all they care about are looks and douchebag guys. After talking to several internationals in college and at the gyms they tell me that women abroad aren't as shallow as they are here. I'm hoping that's true because I'm going abroad for my masters. Life at the short end of the stick sucks in dating but it's never caused people to lose respect for me and it's never caused any problems in any other part of my life.

While I'm still in America is there any advice to offer? Such as where can I meet people and date. From what I'm told by women/men and internationals I have no shot in this country lmao.



Submitted October 13, 2020 at 12:04AM

So I don't online date because I struggle on those apps. I post quality pictures. Good bio but never any luck. I'm not an ugly guy I'm just short. I'm a realist and I know I'm at a huge disadvantage because of my height. Recently I was told by a girl you need to try a thousand times harder to get a girl. She didn't mean it with mal intent. She was trying to be inspirational I guess.In my head, I was like f**k that bs. Not worth it. I'm not going to go above and beyond because people don't like the way I look in regards to something I can't change about myself. Clearly, I don't have a chance online and in-person it seems like you only meet people at bars. I don't like going to bars and clubs. I'm in my mid-twenties and going out like that isn't exciting anymore. What I do is I Box and do Kyokushin Karate. So I go to two different gyms multiple times a week. No one my age that's a girl so it's frustrating. I live in America and from my understanding, these are the worst type of people because all they care about are looks and douchebag guys. After talking to several internationals in college and at the gyms they tell me that women abroad aren't as shallow as they are here. I'm hoping that's true because I'm going abroad for my masters. Life at the short end of the stick sucks in dating but it's never caused people to lose respect for me and it's never caused any problems in any other part of my life.While I'm still in America is there any advice to offer? Such as where can I meet people and date. From what I'm told by women/men and internationals I have no shot in this country lmao.
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