25f not sure how to start dating

hi i'm 25f, never dated anyone, never kissed anyone... literally nothing. i always used to make the excuse that "i don't have time" because i was always VERY focused on school and wanted to get into a field that's really competitive. i'm in it now and am still really busy and need to focus in order to get to the next step in my education, but i've realized that i'll never really have time. i will have to make time in order to find a relationship. and there are tons of people i go to school with who have dated in the past, are in relationships now and have lives. i feel like i've not done anything with my life except panic about school and i'm ready for a change.

i also used to feel like no one could ever love me because i'm ugly and boring but i've been working really hard to overcome those limiting beliefs and my low self-esteem. i still have some work to do on this so i don't want to start dating right away, but just some general tips would be really appreciated. it just feels impossible to me that someone would meet me and want to date me. i can't imagine what it's like to be with a man and to have someone be interested in me. i really want to know what that's like - no one has ever been interested in me. i cannot imagine it and it frustrates me so much when my friends are complaining about all the guys who want their attention... can't relate at all, check ur privilege everyone lol.

anyway, how can i just be more open to the idea of dating someone and not feeling like it's so impossible for someone to like me? i have lots of friends, everyone generally likes me and i'm overall doing well in life so it can't be 100% impossible, right? how can i start to entertain the idea at least? and how do you meet someone without online dating? (i tried that for many months last year and it's not for me, i feel queasy).

thanks in advance :)



Submitted October 13, 2020 at 12:10AM

hi i'm 25f, never dated anyone, never kissed anyone... literally nothing. i always used to make the excuse that "i don't have time" because i was always VERY focused on school and wanted to get into a field that's really competitive. i'm in it now and am still really busy and need to focus in order to get to the next step in my education, but i've realized that i'll never really have time. i will have to make time in order to find a relationship. and there are tons of people i go to school with who have dated in the past, are in relationships now and have lives. i feel like i've not done anything with my life except panic about school and i'm ready for a change.i also used to feel like no one could ever love me because i'm ugly and boring but i've been working really hard to overcome those limiting beliefs and my low self-esteem. i still have some work to do on this so i don't want to start dating right away, but just some general tips would be really appreciated. it just feels impossible to me that someone would meet me and want to date me. i can't imagine what it's like to be with a man and to have someone be interested in me. i really want to know what that's like - no one has ever been interested in me. i cannot imagine it and it frustrates me so much when my friends are complaining about all the guys who want their attention... can't relate at all, check ur privilege everyone lol.anyway, how can i just be more open to the idea of dating someone and not feeling like it's so impossible for someone to like me? i have lots of friends, everyone generally likes me and i'm overall doing well in life so it can't be 100% impossible, right? how can i start to entertain the idea at least? and how do you meet someone without online dating? (i tried that for many months last year and it's not for me, i feel queasy).thanks in advance :)
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