I [26F] am confused on how to move forward with him [26M]

I [26F] have been hanging out with a guy [26M] for about 6 weeks. We're really compatible. We're both fresh out of relationships but his is more recent, I broke up late 2019 and he broke up just 5 or 6 months ago.

It's been a lot of fun and I haven't thought too much about the future. He mentioned to me early on that he wanted to move away but he hadn't brought it up since. I never cared because I was getting to know him and figured anything could happen (I could not like him, he could decide not to leave or leave later) etc. etc. Throughout the weeks, he told me he wanted to see where this goes, told me how much he likes me, invited me on a trip (I didn't go - thought it was too soon / was also tired) and a wedding in December.

This past weekend, I overheard him tell my brother that he was for sure moving. I know he told me this on our first date but I thought it was so insensitive that he was telling this to my brother right next to me. I ended up bringing it up later. Unfortunately, we were tipsy - I'm impulsive. He tells me he wants to have a plan by the end of the year. He doesn't know if he'll leave in 3 months or 6 months but he is going to go. He won't let covid won't stop him. It seems he wants to go to Europe. If he doesn't get a job then he'll travel.

I know it's CRAZY because it's been such a short time but I pretty much said I'd be down to move if we were at that point when he decides to go. If we weren't mutually in love or whatever I wouldn't (obviously). I also mentioned that this is probably something he wants to do alone. He didn't really respond to that (which I know is a response). I told him it would be best that we stop hanging out because I didn't want to develop stronger feelings and then he leaves. He went back & forth saying he wasn't in a rush and that he had made plans to move this year that didn't go through, etc. etc. That he was going to be really bummed but didn't want to be selfish. A bit contradicting but point is that he is leaving.

It's been three days and I haven't heard from him. I don't really expect to considering I ended it because he's leaving and he's not changing his mind on that. I wouldn't have ended it had he shown there was a chance he'd be down to be together but he didn't indicate that at all. He said if he was staying we would and that I had strong ties where we live now, etc.

Should I ride the wave and see what happens? I know I'll never know what could be if I don't risk it. It just seems like such a big risk to fall further and get hurt. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

[TL;DR] Been dating a guy a few weeks. He wants to move but doesn't have a set plan yet. Should I ride it out and see what happens? Or should I cut it off now because the risk of getting hurt is too high?

Submitted October 13, 2020 at 12:53AM

I [26F] have been hanging out with a guy [26M] for about 6 weeks. We're really compatible. We're both fresh out of relationships but his is more recent, I broke up late 2019 and he broke up just 5 or 6 months ago.It's been a lot of fun and I haven't thought too much about the future. He mentioned to me early on that he wanted to move away but he hadn't brought it up since. I never cared because I was getting to know him and figured anything could happen (I could not like him, he could decide not to leave or leave later) etc. etc. Throughout the weeks, he told me he wanted to see where this goes, told me how much he likes me, invited me on a trip (I didn't go - thought it was too soon / was also tired) and a wedding in December.This past weekend, I overheard him tell my brother that he was for sure moving. I know he told me this on our first date but I thought it was so insensitive that he was telling this to my brother right next to me. I ended up bringing it up later. Unfortunately, we were tipsy - I'm impulsive. He tells me he wants to have a plan by the end of the year. He doesn't know if he'll leave in 3 months or 6 months but he is going to go. He won't let covid won't stop him. It seems he wants to go to Europe. If he doesn't get a job then he'll travel.I know it's CRAZY because it's been such a short time but I pretty much said I'd be down to move if we were at that point when he decides to go. If we weren't mutually in love or whatever I wouldn't (obviously). I also mentioned that this is probably something he wants to do alone. He didn't really respond to that (which I know is a response). I told him it would be best that we stop hanging out because I didn't want to develop stronger feelings and then he leaves. He went back & forth saying he wasn't in a rush and that he had made plans to move this year that didn't go through, etc. etc. That he was going to be really bummed but didn't want to be selfish. A bit contradicting but point is that he is leaving.It's been three days and I haven't heard from him. I don't really expect to considering I ended it because he's leaving and he's not changing his mind on that. I wouldn't have ended it had he shown there was a chance he'd be down to be together but he didn't indicate that at all. He said if he was staying we would and that I had strong ties where we live now, etc.Should I ride the wave and see what happens? I know I'll never know what could be if I don't risk it. It just seems like such a big risk to fall further and get hurt. Has anyone been in a similar situation?[TL;DR] Been dating a guy a few weeks. He wants to move but doesn't have a set plan yet. Should I ride it out and see what happens? Or should I cut it off now because the risk of getting hurt is too high?