I (33F) feel like I've failed myself, husband (40M) and our marriage.

My husband and I are wonderful together but this last year we have been struck by grief. We have had 6 deaths in 5 months and the last three have been close relatives on both sides. (Grandfather, aunty and cousin)

We have been good at supporting each other but I have been feeling so overwhelmed with everything over the last week. We have had two funerals within a week of each other.

He has a son from a previous marriage who is polite but ungrateful and dismissive of what is happening.

Anyway, Saturday I went to see a girlfriend and we were catching up and I just vented about how awful my MIL is. How she hasn't asked any questions or offered support whilst I lost my aunty but I did so much when it was my husbands grandfather who passed away. I of course did this for him but I feel that my grief is not important to his side as no-one has asked me how I am feeling, offered help or supported in any way.

I never speak about our marriage or want to ill speak of my husbands family but I am just sick and tired of her and just tired in general. Its been really heavy trying to navigate all through this and also I am facing redundancy which is adding another layer.

I know not to talk about our marriage outside of it and feel like I've failed in all aspects. I feel like I've really let him, I and our marriage down.

My husband and I are great and I adore everything about him. I may be overthinking but I just need some reddit advice.



Submitted September 21, 2020 at 11:50PM

My husband and I are wonderful together but this last year we have been struck by grief. We have had 6 deaths in 5 months and the last three have been close relatives on both sides. (Grandfather, aunty and cousin)We have been good at supporting each other but I have been feeling so overwhelmed with everything over the last week. We have had two funerals within a week of each other.He has a son from a previous marriage who is polite but ungrateful and dismissive of what is happening.Anyway, Saturday I went to see a girlfriend and we were catching up and I just vented about how awful my MIL is. How she hasn't asked any questions or offered support whilst I lost my aunty but I did so much when it was my husbands grandfather who passed away. I of course did this for him but I feel that my grief is not important to his side as no-one has asked me how I am feeling, offered help or supported in any way.I never speak about our marriage or want to ill speak of my husbands family but I am just sick and tired of her and just tired in general. Its been really heavy trying to navigate all through this and also I am facing redundancy which is adding another layer.I know not to talk about our marriage outside of it and feel like I've failed in all aspects. I feel like I've really let him, I and our marriage down.My husband and I are great and I adore everything about him. I may be overthinking but I just need some reddit advice.
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