Why do I feel weird bringing him over?

I’m a girl in a new relationship with a guy who I really like and want to impress. I haven’t liked someone like this in...ever I guess. It’s been a while since we’ve seen each other, for obvious reasons. The last 3 times we saw each other, I always went over to his place. I feel it’s now time to bring him over but I feel weird/have some anxiety about it. I guess it’s partly because my apartment is so old and shabby compared to his, and has issues (loud A/C units, toilet in bathroom that keeps making weird flushing noises at random intervals, whole place can get stuffy). So I guess I’m embarrassed about all that. Not to mention that I have 2 cats that I worry he would trip over or something, or would get in the way of any activities we do and annoy him or us both.

I’d feel more comfortable and natural going over to his place, and I don’t know why. But I’d feel really shy going over to his place again, especially since I’ve already been 3 times in a row. And I want to bring him over but few a bit anxious about it for the reasons I stared above. Just weird because I’ve never felt this way bringing my last date over.

Is any of this a normal feeling to have? How do I get over this or what should I do? Thanks in advance very much for any help.



Submitted May 25, 2020 at 12:11AM

I’m a girl in a new relationship with a guy who I really like and want to impress. I haven’t liked someone like this in...ever I guess. It’s been a while since we’ve seen each other, for obvious reasons. The last 3 times we saw each other, I always went over to his place. I feel it’s now time to bring him over but I feel weird/have some anxiety about it. I guess it’s partly because my apartment is so old and shabby compared to his, and has issues (loud A/C units, toilet in bathroom that keeps making weird flushing noises at random intervals, whole place can get stuffy). So I guess I’m embarrassed about all that. Not to mention that I have 2 cats that I worry he would trip over or something, or would get in the way of any activities we do and annoy him or us both.I’d feel more comfortable and natural going over to his place, and I don’t know why. But I’d feel really shy going over to his place again, especially since I’ve already been 3 times in a row. And I want to bring him over but few a bit anxious about it for the reasons I stared above. Just weird because I’ve never felt this way bringing my last date over.Is any of this a normal feeling to have? How do I get over this or what should I do? Thanks in advance very much for any help.
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