Is this normal for long relationships? (F19+M18)

So me and my long distance boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. My longest relationship before this point was one month and maybe not even that. And before my current boyfriend I only have two others so I’m not that experience when it comes to relationships and I would like some advice about how mine is going and if it’s normal or if I should be worried. I would prefer no one suggest that I break up with him because I am truly in love with him and I really don’t see that helping in any way.

So like I said before me and my boyfriend and then my months and we’ve been doing the long-distance for the entire time. We initially met on our social media website. This is Both our first long-distance that’s lasted this long. However we will be closing the gap soon because I decided to move there. We’ve been having a little bit of issues lately but it might be because we’re both kind of nervous about closing the gap because we don’t know how we’re going to be together and that way. I know it’s going to be awkward but I’m kind of nervous of what his expectations of me are when I get there. Anyways for the last week or so I just felt like anything I say is really boring to him and I tried to keep things interesting and I would save my life is pretty interesting right now because I have so much going on I just graduated I’m having I have three family members with Covid right now and we’re trying to deal with that I just have a lot going on then I just figured that he wouldn’t be bored with me I guess but he just seems that anything I do is not up to his standards. Another thing is with my graduation he seem kind of mad that I graduated but I might just because he didn’t get the opportunity to graduate the way I do so he just might be a little bit jealousy. And I feel like the last couple days we’ve been getting kind of aggravated with each other. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just goes silent. And he gets mad at me sometimes for going quiet and he like told me or you need to make conversations or whatever and I try but then he just stays quiet too and I just don’t I don’t know how to entertain him to what he needs you know. I’m really emotional person I like to connect with people in emotional I won’t I will say me and him have connected and that way it’s just I wish you would share more with me on that level because right now he doesn’t really share anything and I am trying to get things out of him but he just shuts down or gets aggravated with me for asking and I just I don’t want to get him mad.

Anyway thanks for reading if somethings are hard to understand this because I’m using a voice Taiper thing because it’s easier for me and if you have any advice or if this is like such a normal thing for relationships to go through let me know and thank you



Submitted May 31, 2020 at 11:53PM

So me and my long distance boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. My longest relationship before this point was one month and maybe not even that. And before my current boyfriend I only have two others so I’m not that experience when it comes to relationships and I would like some advice about how mine is going and if it’s normal or if I should be worried. I would prefer no one suggest that I break up with him because I am truly in love with him and I really don’t see that helping in any way.So like I said before me and my boyfriend and then my months and we’ve been doing the long-distance for the entire time. We initially met on our social media website. This is Both our first long-distance that’s lasted this long. However we will be closing the gap soon because I decided to move there. We’ve been having a little bit of issues lately but it might be because we’re both kind of nervous about closing the gap because we don’t know how we’re going to be together and that way. I know it’s going to be awkward but I’m kind of nervous of what his expectations of me are when I get there. Anyways for the last week or so I just felt like anything I say is really boring to him and I tried to keep things interesting and I would save my life is pretty interesting right now because I have so much going on I just graduated I’m having I have three family members with Covid right now and we’re trying to deal with that I just have a lot going on then I just figured that he wouldn’t be bored with me I guess but he just seems that anything I do is not up to his standards. Another thing is with my graduation he seem kind of mad that I graduated but I might just because he didn’t get the opportunity to graduate the way I do so he just might be a little bit jealousy. And I feel like the last couple days we’ve been getting kind of aggravated with each other. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just goes silent. And he gets mad at me sometimes for going quiet and he like told me or you need to make conversations or whatever and I try but then he just stays quiet too and I just don’t I don’t know how to entertain him to what he needs you know. I’m really emotional person I like to connect with people in emotional I won’t I will say me and him have connected and that way it’s just I wish you would share more with me on that level because right now he doesn’t really share anything and I am trying to get things out of him but he just shuts down or gets aggravated with me for asking and I just I don’t want to get him mad.Anyway thanks for reading if somethings are hard to understand this because I’m using a voice Taiper thing because it’s easier for me and if you have any advice or if this is like such a normal thing for relationships to go through let me know and thank you
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