Advice for dating during pandemic

HI! I am recently single (female 36). Started up on some dating sites, I'm very picky. . . So I know I have a long way to go. I've been on about 10 first dates in the last 5 months. Well mostly before Mid March. There's was one guy I actually got excited about (male 39). We went on a brunch date, ate, had several drinks at the bar.we ended up talking for about 5 hours. I felt a connection and I was somewhat attracted. After the date, he texted me a few times, so that was nice, I knew he was still interested. Then the shelter in place order began a week after. He started texting less and less. One time went a whole week without texting me, but then I texted him. He responded well, wasn't short or anything. So we continued texting every other day. Sometimes it'd even get into low key sexting. I was getting sort of attached to him, lol or at least his attn maybe?? But the thing is I realized, that I myself didn't even know if I really liked him, it was only one date!! I was investing a lot of time and energy texting with him. I wanted to see him. But he was not asking me out again!!! I am unsure if it was because there's not much to do when the city is shut down.... or he's just not into me. Then I was lule why would he even bother to text me if he wasnt into me. Anyway I decided I was going to have to make a move. He really liked an Italian dinner i had made (the picture i mean). I offered to bring him a plate after I did my target run since I'd be out n about. Made it casual so he kinda had a choice quick drop off or he could invite me in. He replied and said he was watching his sisters kids that day while she was at work, but he said how about another day this week?? I said sure sounds good 👍. Well he never texted me that week. I was detemined NOT to text him again. . 25 days later he reaches out joking about "what happened to the food?" I wasn't even mad by that point anymore. I just thought hed dropped me. So anyway we start chatting again. I was like eh I don't have anything to lose. We text every few days, mostly initiated by him. But it seems very surface level. I almost feel like he doesn't really want to know me. He hasn't asked me out. I know we were quarantined, but we couldve still gone for a walk in the park or something. Or even hang out in our yard. I'm not sure what I should do, am I wasting my time with him?? And what could he possibly want from me ?? If he was only after sex, well he had that chance when I offered to bring him food. Should I start playing games and not be as available? How do I know what his intentions are with me without sounding crazy?? If I said, listen...i need to ask you what do you want with me?? Why are you talking to me, I'm confused?? I may sound kind of crazy don't you think? And then I afterwards he asked me "why are you confused?"... I'd have to say " well cause you're not even asking me out". Then that sounds needy to me, or like I'm telling him he should ask me out. Advice anyone?

Submitted May 31, 2020 at 11:45PM

HI! I am recently single (female 36). Started up on some dating sites, I'm very picky. . . So I know I have a long way to go. I've been on about 10 first dates in the last 5 months. Well mostly before Mid March. There's was one guy I actually got excited about (male 39). We went on a brunch date, ate, had several drinks at the bar.we ended up talking for about 5 hours. I felt a connection and I was somewhat attracted. After the date, he texted me a few times, so that was nice, I knew he was still interested. Then the shelter in place order began a week after. He started texting less and less. One time went a whole week without texting me, but then I texted him. He responded well, wasn't short or anything. So we continued texting every other day. Sometimes it'd even get into low key sexting. I was getting sort of attached to him, lol or at least his attn maybe?? But the thing is I realized, that I myself didn't even know if I really liked him, it was only one date!! I was investing a lot of time and energy texting with him. I wanted to see him. But he was not asking me out again!!! I am unsure if it was because there's not much to do when the city is shut down.... or he's just not into me. Then I was lule why would he even bother to text me if he wasnt into me. Anyway I decided I was going to have to make a move. He really liked an Italian dinner i had made (the picture i mean). I offered to bring him a plate after I did my target run since I'd be out n about. Made it casual so he kinda had a choice quick drop off or he could invite me in. He replied and said he was watching his sisters kids that day while she was at work, but he said how about another day this week?? I said sure sounds good 👍. Well he never texted me that week. I was detemined NOT to text him again. . 25 days later he reaches out joking about "what happened to the food?" I wasn't even mad by that point anymore. I just thought hed dropped me. So anyway we start chatting again. I was like eh I don't have anything to lose. We text every few days, mostly initiated by him. But it seems very surface level. I almost feel like he doesn't really want to know me. He hasn't asked me out. I know we were quarantined, but we couldve still gone for a walk in the park or something. Or even hang out in our yard. I'm not sure what I should do, am I wasting my time with him?? And what could he possibly want from me ?? If he was only after sex, well he had that chance when I offered to bring him food. Should I start playing games and not be as available? How do I know what his intentions are with me without sounding crazy?? If I said, listen...i need to ask you what do you want with me?? Why are you talking to me, I'm confused?? I may sound kind of crazy don't you think? And then I afterwards he asked me "why are you confused?"... I'd have to say " well cause you're not even asking me out". Then that sounds needy to me, or like I'm telling him he should ask me out. Advice anyone?