Not the best sex of his life - but I want to be!

Posted in r/relationship_advice, but I think a more sex positive community would provide better insight for me....

Just like the title says. I’ve (24F) been seeing a guy for a little while now (24M). We’ve been hooking up for a long time but recently got a little more serious. We were joking around and drinking the other day with our mutual friends and we were talking about the best sex of our lives. The guy I’m seeing mentioned that we have great sex, but I wasn’t his number 1. In fairness, he’s not mine either, but for some reason it bothered me SO MUCH.

I know it’s childish to be upset about something like this, and that’s why I’m asking Reddit. I’m very sexually experienced and have had a lot of people tell me, unprompted, that I’m far and away the best lay they’ve ever had. I KNOW that it doesn’t matter at the end of the day, and we still have good sex, and we have a great relationship in every way.... but this feeling of needed to be “the best” is eating away at me and I feel like an idiot for letting it bug me so much. Does anyone have any advice for letting go of this bizarre obsessive feeling and just moving on and being satisfied with my relationship? Any words of advice are appreciated.

Edit - just to add, I’m not looking for advice in bed. We’re both very experienced, communicate very well about what we like, and already do have really amazing sex. I’m more looking for advice to move past my obsession with being #1 when I realistically know that it doesn’t matter.



Submitted April 20, 2020 at 09:45PM

Posted in r/relationship_advice, but I think a more sex positive community would provide better insight for me....Just like the title says. I’ve (24F) been seeing a guy for a little while now (24M). We’ve been hooking up for a long time but recently got a little more serious. We were joking around and drinking the other day with our mutual friends and we were talking about the best sex of our lives. The guy I’m seeing mentioned that we have great sex, but I wasn’t his number 1. In fairness, he’s not mine either, but for some reason it bothered me SO MUCH.I know it’s childish to be upset about something like this, and that’s why I’m asking Reddit. I’m very sexually experienced and have had a lot of people tell me, unprompted, that I’m far and away the best lay they’ve ever had. I KNOW that it doesn’t matter at the end of the day, and we still have good sex, and we have a great relationship in every way.... but this feeling of needed to be “the best” is eating away at me and I feel like an idiot for letting it bug me so much. Does anyone have any advice for letting go of this bizarre obsessive feeling and just moving on and being satisfied with my relationship? Any words of advice are appreciated.Edit - just to add, I’m not looking for advice in bed. We’re both very experienced, communicate very well about what we like, and already do have really amazing sex. I’m more looking for advice to move past my obsession with being #1 when I realistically know that it doesn’t matter.
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