Me (M26) trying to decipher her(F26) text messages

Hi there, first time posting so forgive me if there are any formatting issues. I'll provide backstory so you have context: I (M26)dated a girl(F25) for ~6 months and we recently broke up. We had been seeing each other exclusively (as far as I know) for 12 months prior to us agreeing to date officially so she was a part of my life for a total of ~18 months. We had decided that we still wanted to be in touch and a part of each other's lives post the break up. We had been texting and had hung out a few times since in a non platonic manner. She recently texted me this and I'm trying to wrap my head around if theres any hidden messages I'm missing here. The other thing I'd appreciate any commentary/insight on is if you think she might reach out in due time.

"Also I've been giving this some thought lately - I realized I need to take some time for myself right now and focus on me and helping my fam. I know after we talked about going our separate ways we weren't quite sure how it would manifest going forward, but given the craziness with COVID and mandate to limit social interaction I think it might be fitting to now start to head in that direction.With that being said, I really appreciate everything that you've done for me. I want you to know you have undoubtedly made me a better person and if it would be helpful,I'm still happy to help with job searching or whatnot (of course happy to refer you to XYZ and connect you with the right people)LI'll still be rooting for you and I know there are amazing things in store for you. I know I've said it a million times but thank you for everything and thank you for simply being you "

I've been miserable just reading this text over and over again the last few days and would appreciate any of your thoughts!

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TL;DR: Ex dumped me and sent me a text and trying to figure out if theres something I'm missing



Submitted April 06, 2020 at 12:18AM

Hi there, first time posting so forgive me if there are any formatting issues. I'll provide backstory so you have context: I (M26)dated a girl(F25) for ~6 months and we recently broke up. We had been seeing each other exclusively (as far as I know) for 12 months prior to us agreeing to date officially so she was a part of my life for a total of ~18 months. We had decided that we still wanted to be in touch and a part of each other's lives post the break up. We had been texting and had hung out a few times since in a non platonic manner. She recently texted me this and I'm trying to wrap my head around if theres any hidden messages I'm missing here. The other thing I'd appreciate any commentary/insight on is if you think she might reach out in due time."Also I've been giving this some thought lately - I realized I need to take some time for myself right now and focus on me and helping my fam. I know after we talked about going our separate ways we weren't quite sure how it would manifest going forward, but given the craziness with COVID and mandate to limit social interaction I think it might be fitting to now start to head in that direction.With that being said, I really appreciate everything that you've done for me. I want you to know you have undoubtedly made me a better person and if it would be helpful,I'm still happy to help with job searching or whatnot (of course happy to refer you to XYZ and connect you with the right people)LI'll still be rooting for you and I know there are amazing things in store for you. I know I've said it a million times but thank you for everything and thank you for simply being you "I've been miserable just reading this text over and over again the last few days and would appreciate any of your thoughts!​TL;DR: Ex dumped me and sent me a text and trying to figure out if theres something I'm missing
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