My (29F) Fiance (30M) answered his mother’s phone call during sexy time.

In his defense (I guess?) we weren’t full on fucking yet (still in the foreplay stage) AND I did leave the room for 30 seconds to grab one of our toys. However, it isn’t like he answered and said he would call her back in 20 minutes, they had a full on (5-8 minutes) conversation about absolutely nothing. Needless to say my vag became a desert really quickly. [Note that they talk on the phone EVERY SINGLE DAY at least once, so it isn’t like he hasn’t heard from her in months or something].

I’ve had issues with how much he bends over backwards for his mother from the beginning. Most of the time I just find it kind of ridiculous or annoying, but not harmful. However, today and another incident this week have made me reconsider if I’m really the most important woman in his life, or if I’m going to spend the next 20-30 years coming in second place while he caters to her “needs”. So.. I’m not really sure what to do or how to feel. We are set to get married next week. I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to have sex with him again. So my questions are.. am I being silly? What are healthy boundaries? How do I even begin communicating all of this to him?

[Other incident: His parents are quarantining themselves during this epidemic, and have asked us to get groceries for them. No problem…. Until it became clear that we were expected to do it 2-3 times a week. Fiance saw no problem with this, until I pointed out that it is RIDICULOUS to be exposing ourselves so much, and to please ask his mother to think ahead so we only need to go once a week AT MOST. He asked her and her reply was “okay, I’ll try, but it’s hard”. Which means we are still going to receive several shopping lists a week but she’ll say “only go if you have time!” which means we will STILL go 3 times a week because my Fiance can’t say no to her].

TL;DR: My fiancé is a mama’s boy and I’m starting to realize I’ll never be #1 in his life.

Submitted March 27, 2020 at 12:12AM

In his defense (I guess?) we weren’t full on fucking yet (still in the foreplay stage) AND I did leave the room for 30 seconds to grab one of our toys. However, it isn’t like he answered and said he would call her back in 20 minutes, they had a full on (5-8 minutes) conversation about absolutely nothing. Needless to say my vag became a desert really quickly. [Note that they talk on the phone EVERY SINGLE DAY at least once, so it isn’t like he hasn’t heard from her in months or something].I’ve had issues with how much he bends over backwards for his mother from the beginning. Most of the time I just find it kind of ridiculous or annoying, but not harmful. However, today and another incident this week have made me reconsider if I’m really the most important woman in his life, or if I’m going to spend the next 20-30 years coming in second place while he caters to her “needs”. So.. I’m not really sure what to do or how to feel. We are set to get married next week. I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to have sex with him again. So my questions are.. am I being silly? What are healthy boundaries? How do I even begin communicating all of this to him?[Other incident: His parents are quarantining themselves during this epidemic, and have asked us to get groceries for them. No problem…. Until it became clear that we were expected to do it 2-3 times a week. Fiance saw no problem with this, until I pointed out that it is RIDICULOUS to be exposing ourselves so much, and to please ask his mother to think ahead so we only need to go once a week AT MOST. He asked her and her reply was “okay, I’ll try, but it’s hard”. Which means we are still going to receive several shopping lists a week but she’ll say “only go if you have time!” which means we will STILL go 3 times a week because my Fiance can’t say no to her].TL;DR: My fiancé is a mama’s boy and I’m starting to realize I’ll never be #1 in his life.