My (20M) girlfriend (18F) never wants to talk when she gets upset with me and completely shuts down

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and I love her very much but one common problem I always have with her is that whenever she gets upset with me she never wants to talk about it, tell me how she feels, etc. She snapchatted me today telling me she wanted me to ask someone something for her but she accidentally typed “I”, so I thought she was telling me she was going to ask this person her question.

Later today I found out I misunderstood her and she got very upset. I told her that I wanted to talk to her and know why she was upset and that it was just a miscommunication, she just kept saying “Ok cool”, and “whatever”. She does this very often when she gets upset over little things and never wants to talk about it. I love her very much but it’s very draining. I did what she wanted and asked the person her question but it wasn’t a very timed ordeal so I don’t know why she got so upset. I would like some advice.

TLDR: when girlfriend gets upset over small things she shuts down and doesn’t talk to me about the issue. It makes me feel invalidated. Please help



Submitted March 27, 2020 at 12:14AM

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and I love her very much but one common problem I always have with her is that whenever she gets upset with me she never wants to talk about it, tell me how she feels, etc. She snapchatted me today telling me she wanted me to ask someone something for her but she accidentally typed “I”, so I thought she was telling me she was going to ask this person her question.Later today I found out I misunderstood her and she got very upset. I told her that I wanted to talk to her and know why she was upset and that it was just a miscommunication, she just kept saying “Ok cool”, and “whatever”. She does this very often when she gets upset over little things and never wants to talk about it. I love her very much but it’s very draining. I did what she wanted and asked the person her question but it wasn’t a very timed ordeal so I don’t know why she got so upset. I would like some advice.TLDR: when girlfriend gets upset over small things she shuts down and doesn’t talk to me about the issue. It makes me feel invalidated. Please help
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