Me (M18) struggling to come to terms with feelings for a girl (F19)

So, this is a long one and I am desperate for advice. So naturally I have consulted the oracle of reddit.

So, scenario:This girl, and her now ex-boyfriend are my best friends. They have only just broken up (Feb 15th, yeah, ouch.) It was initially amicable but as of Friday the 6th it got messy when she got wasted. The break up is now that, finalised and finished, with the EX-BF moving on because he doesn't love her anymore, and her heartbroken, with me picking up the pieces and helping her get herself back together again.

The need for advice is:

I have liked this girl for a while, a good while. On and off for a year, and very much over the past 7-8 months. We have grown from initially hating each other, to alright friends, to essentially inseparable. This was just on me being very good at brutally suppressing my emotions and feelings (we'll ignore that for today, dear reader.) and accepting I didn't have a shot in hell so I had to kill the need to date her.

But that isn't the case any longer. She is single now, and yes heart broken but she will pick herself up. She always has. I want to make a move, there is however, one massive complication left.

I leave for the Army in June, and will be gone for a good while. I know if I take these feelings with me to training, it is going to impact me at a point when I need every ounce of strength to keep striving forward, but I don't want to drop such a massive truth-bomb and then leave for 6-11 months, and come home to me losing 1 or 2 friends. Some of my only friends left, after a tumultuous year. I need them both, but don't want to risk it.

I am at an impasse.

Reddit, I implore you, what do I do?

Thanks in advance, may the Emperor protect us all.

Submitted March 10, 2020 at 11:46PM

So, this is a long one and I am desperate for advice. So naturally I have consulted the oracle of reddit.So, scenario:This girl, and her now ex-boyfriend are my best friends. They have only just broken up (Feb 15th, yeah, ouch.) It was initially amicable but as of Friday the 6th it got messy when she got wasted. The break up is now that, finalised and finished, with the EX-BF moving on because he doesn't love her anymore, and her heartbroken, with me picking up the pieces and helping her get herself back together again.The need for advice is:I have liked this girl for a while, a good while. On and off for a year, and very much over the past 7-8 months. We have grown from initially hating each other, to alright friends, to essentially inseparable. This was just on me being very good at brutally suppressing my emotions and feelings (we'll ignore that for today, dear reader.) and accepting I didn't have a shot in hell so I had to kill the need to date her.But that isn't the case any longer. She is single now, and yes heart broken but she will pick herself up. She always has. I want to make a move, there is however, one massive complication left.I leave for the Army in June, and will be gone for a good while. I know if I take these feelings with me to training, it is going to impact me at a point when I need every ounce of strength to keep striving forward, but I don't want to drop such a massive truth-bomb and then leave for 6-11 months, and come home to me losing 1 or 2 friends. Some of my only friends left, after a tumultuous year. I need them both, but don't want to risk it.I am at an impasse.Reddit, I implore you, what do I do?Thanks in advance, may the Emperor protect us all.