Boyfriend rushing into marriage?

Me (24F) and my boyfriend (31M) have been together for 2 months, and I know it doesn’t seem like a lot but we fell for each other pretty hard during this period and he even started talking about living together and marrying me. He keeps putting an accent on how he never had such serious plans about anyone before and he was never 100% sure that he wanted that with the others until he met me. The thing is, this is all pretty strange to me... He has an ex girlfriend of almost 8 years (they broke up 4-5 years ago) and she got engaged with another a few months ago (before he even knew me). I don’t know how he took it back then, he seems to be over it now but I’m worried that he’s rushing into things with me just because he feels bitter that his ex is getting married... could it be that he’s just trying to cover up his pain by forcing a marriage into his life because he thinks it’ll pull his life together even though we haven’t been dating long? They started dating young and he said that he regretted getting in such a serious relationship and he wanted his freedom back then, but could it be that now he’s regreting letting her go and not being the one to marry her? They still have each-other on social media, they sometimes like each-other’s posts (he even liked her engagement pic), and he still keeps some pictures with her on facebook from some years ago. I would appreciate another perspective on this situation, thanks!

Tl;dr: My boyfriend keeps talking about marriage 2 months into our relationship and I’m worried it’s because he’s bitter that his ex got engaged a few months ago.



Submitted March 26, 2020 at 12:08AM

Me (24F) and my boyfriend (31M) have been together for 2 months, and I know it doesn’t seem like a lot but we fell for each other pretty hard during this period and he even started talking about living together and marrying me. He keeps putting an accent on how he never had such serious plans about anyone before and he was never 100% sure that he wanted that with the others until he met me. The thing is, this is all pretty strange to me... He has an ex girlfriend of almost 8 years (they broke up 4-5 years ago) and she got engaged with another a few months ago (before he even knew me). I don’t know how he took it back then, he seems to be over it now but I’m worried that he’s rushing into things with me just because he feels bitter that his ex is getting married... could it be that he’s just trying to cover up his pain by forcing a marriage into his life because he thinks it’ll pull his life together even though we haven’t been dating long? They started dating young and he said that he regretted getting in such a serious relationship and he wanted his freedom back then, but could it be that now he’s regreting letting her go and not being the one to marry her? They still have each-other on social media, they sometimes like each-other’s posts (he even liked her engagement pic), and he still keeps some pictures with her on facebook from some years ago. I would appreciate another perspective on this situation, thanks!Tl;dr: My boyfriend keeps talking about marriage 2 months into our relationship and I’m worried it’s because he’s bitter that his ex got engaged a few months ago.
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