Sub GF say she is talking to dom ex

Sooo a little bit of the background, we met thru kik, she needed a ride, I had a car, we end up becoming good friends. She tells me of a scar on her forehead it’s from a ex that straight up, balled fist, split her open, mind you I just got off a 6.5 yr sentence for beating a man that put his hands on a woman! I instantly hated this guy not to mention she gets visually upset anytime after they have met up, since knowing her (6months)! I tried to be the friend that was there for her if she needed me but not get in the way of her wants. Now we are dating, she is a sub in the bedroom and I’m more dominant but not to the level she wants n l won’t go to that level! I teeat woman with more respect then that N I can’t bring myself to be ok, even in the bedroom, to do that! She got this release from her ex, I knew this before dating her, I don’t hit those note in bed, don’t get me wrong I’m not a Vanilla in the sac!

Recently she has started talking to her ex n I have a feeling met up with him, I know it’s just sex but she has told me she is talking to him and she isn’t going to stop! I know I’m the best thing she has ever had in her life, her best friends have made thus very clear to me and her as well I’m a good dude! She love me and doesn’t want to lose me but can’t stop the urge to contact her ex!

I basically left but cane back after seeing she told me this because it was killing her to continue lying to me about it and I realizing I know I’m better then this guy and just have to prove and show her why I’m more! So we are back together, knowing she is talking to the ex! My thoughts on this go crazy (only reason she is talking to him is to see him right?) she wants the love and good feelings of everyday life from me but the sex from him And im not ok with that!

So my question is, how tell her I don’t want to leave her but I can’t continue with this unknown without getting into all my crazy thoughts of her “cheating”



Submitted February 02, 2020 at 11:28PM

Sooo a little bit of the background, we met thru kik, she needed a ride, I had a car, we end up becoming good friends. She tells me of a scar on her forehead it’s from a ex that straight up, balled fist, split her open, mind you I just got off a 6.5 yr sentence for beating a man that put his hands on a woman! I instantly hated this guy not to mention she gets visually upset anytime after they have met up, since knowing her (6months)! I tried to be the friend that was there for her if she needed me but not get in the way of her wants. Now we are dating, she is a sub in the bedroom and I’m more dominant but not to the level she wants n l won’t go to that level! I teeat woman with more respect then that N I can’t bring myself to be ok, even in the bedroom, to do that! She got this release from her ex, I knew this before dating her, I don’t hit those note in bed, don’t get me wrong I’m not a Vanilla in the sac!Recently she has started talking to her ex n I have a feeling met up with him, I know it’s just sex but she has told me she is talking to him and she isn’t going to stop! I know I’m the best thing she has ever had in her life, her best friends have made thus very clear to me and her as well I’m a good dude! She love me and doesn’t want to lose me but can’t stop the urge to contact her ex!I basically left but cane back after seeing she told me this because it was killing her to continue lying to me about it and I realizing I know I’m better then this guy and just have to prove and show her why I’m more! So we are back together, knowing she is talking to the ex! My thoughts on this go crazy (only reason she is talking to him is to see him right?) she wants the love and good feelings of everyday life from me but the sex from him And im not ok with that!So my question is, how tell her I don’t want to leave her but I can’t continue with this unknown without getting into all my crazy thoughts of her “cheating”
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