I am giving her [23F] space so I [25M] can become a better man for her

Hi guys,

Today I realized that the greatest problem I have when it comes to dating is impatience and rash decision making. I recently caused the woman I’m seeing a great deal of anxiety due to my hasty and impatient nature. I quickly realized that I’m the one at fault. We sat down after and had a discussion where we talked about how my impulsive planning made her upset and how she feels I’m being too intense. I apologized for my actions and promised that I would work on being more patient and thoughtful in the future. We made up but I’m scared that I’ve poisoned the water, so I’ve decided that I must become better in order to be worthy of her.

My plan is to give her some space so that I don’t overwhelm her, while simultaneously working hard on myself to be a better man for her. I am incredibly angry at myself for what I did, and I have promised to change so that I will never cause her anxiety again. I’m currently in therapy and will discuss this with my therapist as well as meditate and work on my passion projects. I will not contact her during these next few weeks but will do so when I feel I have become good enough for her. I must conquer my anxiety for her and for me.

Do you all think this is a good plan? I fear that I’ve ruined a good thing already, and I’m fully willing to be a better man for her so that I can add joy to her life rather than anxiety. I just wonder if I’m taking the no-contact too far. She never said to give her space or no-contact, but I feel that it would be best given how dumb I’ve been.



Submitted February 04, 2020 at 11:30PM

Hi guys,Today I realized that the greatest problem I have when it comes to dating is impatience and rash decision making. I recently caused the woman I’m seeing a great deal of anxiety due to my hasty and impatient nature. I quickly realized that I’m the one at fault. We sat down after and had a discussion where we talked about how my impulsive planning made her upset and how she feels I’m being too intense. I apologized for my actions and promised that I would work on being more patient and thoughtful in the future. We made up but I’m scared that I’ve poisoned the water, so I’ve decided that I must become better in order to be worthy of her.My plan is to give her some space so that I don’t overwhelm her, while simultaneously working hard on myself to be a better man for her. I am incredibly angry at myself for what I did, and I have promised to change so that I will never cause her anxiety again. I’m currently in therapy and will discuss this with my therapist as well as meditate and work on my passion projects. I will not contact her during these next few weeks but will do so when I feel I have become good enough for her. I must conquer my anxiety for her and for me.Do you all think this is a good plan? I fear that I’ve ruined a good thing already, and I’m fully willing to be a better man for her so that I can add joy to her life rather than anxiety. I just wonder if I’m taking the no-contact too far. She never said to give her space or no-contact, but I feel that it would be best given how dumb I’ve been.

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