I (f23) think my best friend (f23) loves to steal guys from me

So ive been friends with this girl for a few years now. I would say a lot of things about us are pretty similar both physically and how we think. I guess that parts not important it just baffles me why she’s the one guys are attracted to when we are often described as the same person. What am I not doing? We are both single, and whenever a guy comes around that I’m attracted to, she always is too. Then it becomes this silent unspoken “battle” for lack of a better word to spend time with that person. I think she loves the idea that she’s winning more attention from the guys than I am more than the guys themselves. And will go out of her way to secretly text them or even hang out with them without me.

At first I thought it was a coincidence we liked the same people. but over the years I’m realizing it’s every guy I end up crushing on, she likes them too. Sometimes only after I’ve disclosed my feelings to her, or it becomes obvious. She’s naturally flirtier than I am, I tend to be shy, but I open up quickly to people I know, which is why it’s helpful to have a friend around. but it’s unbelievable to me that a “friend” continues to fight with me over our guy friends (maybe subconsciously). She’s even come out and told me to stop contacting a guy because it’s better for me to have space from them. She completely monopolizes them so they eventually see me as her friend and the third wheel.

Aren’t friends supposed to help you get together with people not steal any potential relationships from you?

Submitted October 31, 2019 at 11:47PM

So ive been friends with this girl for a few years now. I would say a lot of things about us are pretty similar both physically and how we think. I guess that parts not important it just baffles me why she’s the one guys are attracted to when we are often described as the same person. What am I not doing? We are both single, and whenever a guy comes around that I’m attracted to, she always is too. Then it becomes this silent unspoken “battle” for lack of a better word to spend time with that person. I think she loves the idea that she’s winning more attention from the guys than I am more than the guys themselves. And will go out of her way to secretly text them or even hang out with them without me.At first I thought it was a coincidence we liked the same people. but over the years I’m realizing it’s every guy I end up crushing on, she likes them too. Sometimes only after I’ve disclosed my feelings to her, or it becomes obvious. She’s naturally flirtier than I am, I tend to be shy, but I open up quickly to people I know, which is why it’s helpful to have a friend around. but it’s unbelievable to me that a “friend” continues to fight with me over our guy friends (maybe subconsciously). She’s even come out and told me to stop contacting a guy because it’s better for me to have space from them. She completely monopolizes them so they eventually see me as her friend and the third wheel.Aren’t friends supposed to help you get together with people not steal any potential relationships from you?