I (M24) want to take things further with a college friend (F22) but have some things stopping me...

Hey guys,

So I've been going to college with this girl for about 6 months now and I've started have feelings for her. I'm not sure she feels the same way, but it's something that I really feel the need to get off my chest. There are a few things stopping me from doing so, and I was seeking some advice:

  1. I don't want it to be too awkward. We have several more years of uni together and we share a group of friends, so if it all goes wrong I don't want to feel isolated from them or make her feel awkward.
  2. I'm worried that telling her will make her think that everything I've done for her was just because I like her, rather than just me being genuine. I don't want her to think I'm fake.
  3. I'm currently really overweight but in the process of losing weight. I feel like she'll say no because of this, so I'm not sure if I should bring up my feelings for her now or wait until I feel more confident with my weight and ask her then, but then I risk waiting too long and her either only seeing me as a friend or her finding someone else.
  4. I don't even know the best way to approach it. Do I just bring it up casually when we are alone, and just say straight out that I like her? or try hinting at it through actions and indirectly?

TL;DR: I like a girl at college and want to approach her about it but I'm not sure how to and whether or not I should wait until I've lost weight.

Thanks!



Submitted August 24, 2019 at 11:36PM

Hey guys,So I've been going to college with this girl for about 6 months now and I've started have feelings for her. I'm not sure she feels the same way, but it's something that I really feel the need to get off my chest. There are a few things stopping me from doing so, and I was seeking some advice:I don't want it to be too awkward. We have several more years of uni together and we share a group of friends, so if it all goes wrong I don't want to feel isolated from them or make her feel awkward.I'm worried that telling her will make her think that everything I've done for her was just because I like her, rather than just me being genuine. I don't want her to think I'm fake.I'm currently really overweight but in the process of losing weight. I feel like she'll say no because of this, so I'm not sure if I should bring up my feelings for her now or wait until I feel more confident with my weight and ask her then, but then I risk waiting too long and her either only seeing me as a friend or her finding someone else.I don't even know the best way to approach it. Do I just bring it up casually when we are alone, and just say straight out that I like her? or try hinting at it through actions and indirectly?TL;DR: I like a girl at college and want to approach her about it but I'm not sure how to and whether or not I should wait until I've lost weight.Thanks!
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